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Can you please describe what a contraction feels like?

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marthamay · 28/03/2010 21:28

Hi there,

There must be some other first time mums out there like me who have no idea what a real contraction feels like! I am close to my due date and really curious now.

I would be really interested if those with more childbirth experience could describe what they feel like...

?????

Thanks!

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Reallytired · 28/03/2010 21:32

Have you had an bracton Hicks yet? Imagine pulling in your stomach muscles as tight as you can. In the early stages of labour it feels a bit like period pains.

The important thing is to remember to breathe and keep as calm as possible.

chachachachacha · 28/03/2010 21:33

I don't think I could explain it as it feels like nothing else I have experienced and it is true when people say 'you know when you're having one'.

If I had to choose one word to describe mine it would be intense.

Hopefully you won't have too long to wait now til you can experience it for yourself.

SPBInDisguise · 28/03/2010 21:35

like an intense stomach cramp, but muscular rather than diarrhoea-related (and I speak from recent experience )

SPBInDisguise · 28/03/2010 21:37

if it helps, last time I thought it was trapped wind to begin with, and stretched out to relieve it iykwim. Obviously when it came and went and got worse I realised.
Remember thinking the same re trapped wind the first time round too.

marthamay · 28/03/2010 21:41

Wow!
So could be like having really bad period cramps or really bad digestion cramps....

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pooter · 28/03/2010 21:55

for me it is not like any other pain - the inevitability of the next wave and the next..and the fact that you cant alleviate it (until the anaesthetist gives an epidural) Im afraid it is the most excruciating thing i have ever experienced (twice)although i have friends - and my mum - who didnt think it was bad at all - so you dont know how you will experience it until it happens. I hope you are one of the lucky ones!

JustMyTwoPenceWorth · 28/03/2010 21:59

trying to remember now period pain. sort of. Feels like you are clenching your whole stomach really tightly but you can't help yourself. Builds up then dissipates.

Actually giving birth is like shitting a watermelon. It really does feel like the most massive poo of your life. (erm. and on that subject...)

Fortunately they offer you a wonderful thing called GAS AND AIR and you won't care a bit.

you'll be fine. I did it all again 15 months later. It's not that bad. If it was, nobody would have more than one child (multiple births notwithstanding)

Hassled · 28/03/2010 22:07

It's usually the same sort of pain as a period pain, coupled with a sort of clenching/tightening. But on a whole different level of pain (for most). Just try not to be frightened by it - with my first I had no concept of what it would be like and panicked completely. Don't panic! It hurts like fuck, but it ends . The best of luck.

Lionstar · 28/03/2010 22:11

If we all remembered how bad labour actually was no one would have more than one kid! However as that blatantly is no the case, suffice to say that no matter how dreadful it is, you will forget! (think the sleepless nights might have something to do with that!)

BertieBotts · 28/03/2010 22:13

I think it is slightly different for everyone. For me it started off like period pain, but then spread around to my back, my whole lower back just had this period type pain as well, and obviously it was a lot stronger than period pain! What helped with this back pain was having someone apply pressure very very hard, like they would put their weight into it and I'd still be pushing back against them to counter it, that seemed to help.

I second the tensing up but you can't help yourself. If you get this try to concentrate on relaxing your arms and shoulders and breathe. Hold your hands in front of you, upper arms by your sides, elbows bent, palms up. That helped to relax me a lot because trying to relax your legs etc doesn't help!

It was quite manageable because it is in short bursts. Towards the end it can feel a bit endless but by then you are in a sort of zone! I found a birth pool very helpful, and would have used pain relief drugs if I'd needed them but I didn't in the end. Pushing was the worst bit for me, if I could have had an epidural just for that bit it would have been perfect!

marthamay · 28/03/2010 22:45

I don't really get much period pain actually, except for a dull ache - so I find it really hard to equate that with what a contraction might feel like.

A lot of people have suggested that trying to relax tension through contractions can help with coping.

Someone suggested that it was like a 'squeezing sensation'- like someone was pulling a rubber band tight around your uterus.

Does your bump go hard like a BH?

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Miamla · 28/03/2010 22:57

mine weren't bad at all... i actually argued with the nurse about whether or not i was contracting. I reckoned not, she showed me the printout of the monitor and apparently she was right

and yes, my bump was rock hard

JaynieB · 28/03/2010 23:02

I have never known pain like it - sorry! But tis true to say people experience it to varying degrees, a chum of mine though she had back ache - not unusual in late pregnancy - went back to sleep then eventually realised it was coming and going very regularly and twigged it might be something else, went to hospital, fully dilated - couple of pushes and baby was out!

gaelicsheep · 28/03/2010 23:05

Contrary to what people usually say I've never forgotten mine, but it wouldn't be helpful to you to try to describe my experience as it will probably be entirely different for you. Don't listen to people who say it's just like period pain though, because you won't be prepared for what's to come. It is very very painful, but you will get through it. We all do (and some are foolish enough to do it again).

Scrudd · 28/03/2010 23:10

Like the others said, they start off a bit like period pains, could be in the front bit of your tummy or in the back. Your tummy will go rock hard.

They get stronger and closer together and eventually they REALLY FUCKING HURT.

hth

gaelicsheep · 28/03/2010 23:13

Sometimes, if you're very unlucky, they REALLY FUCKING HURT right from the start. If that's the case though, it's more than likely that your labour isn't following the textbook pattern so don't panic! It might not actually get that much worse from that point on (and boy do I wish I'd known that).

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heth1980 · 29/03/2010 08:02

If i could give you one piece of avice, it would be to RELAX! Don't be frightened by the pain and don't panic. Breathe slowly through the contractions, in through your nose and out through your mouth. Try and keep your body relaxed and don't tense up with the pain. My first birth was incredibly painful, and I'm sure it was because I was terrified and panicking. My 2nd was far less painful and I would almost go as far as to say I enjoyed it.....I put that down to staying calm and relaxed.

Contractions are pretty much like really bad period pain, although at the same time they aren't really comparable to anything else. Birth really does feel like shitting a watermelon though!

I've done it twice, so it really can't be that bad XX

SPBInDisguise · 29/03/2010 09:21

They do hurt (understatement!) but I didn't find them that bad as I wasn't worried about what was so wrong with me to cause them iyswim. You know everything is fine so just concentrate on managing the pain

mad4mainecoons · 29/03/2010 09:25

I would second that heth,
my first birth was really painfull, but mostly because i was panicing and tensing up. with my DD i remember the midwife saying "if in doubt - blow out" and thats exactly what i did, deep breath in through the nose and blow out your mouth. i did it through all the contractions and the labour was much less painful, and i was much much calmer.

good luck.x

smilehomebirth · 29/03/2010 10:18

I found them to be exactly like the worst period pain ever, all in my lower abdomen, never had any pain in my back at all. They would come up like a wave, to start with the sensation would just be exciting, then as the wave built up it would get increasingly uncomfortable until, at the height of the wave, it would be an unbearable combination of pressure and period pain. This unbearable bit would, however, only last for a bearably short length of time, and then it was swiftly down the other side of the wave to the blessed absolute discomfort-free space in between.
Towards the end of the 1st stage and into the 2nd stage, the height of the wave started to be joined by a sensation of a cone of muscles in my lower abdomen clenching themselves - muscles working hard automatically all by themselves. This would've been the involutary pushing reflex I guess.

Unless you get unlucky and have back labour, you'll find that you are NOT in discomfort for alot more time than you are in discomfort. DD2 took 7hrs - of this, if you tot it up, I was only in any pain at all for about 1hr. The spaces in between are fabulous for regaining your spirits.

I have read that women who could describe their pain in detail reported less pain than those who just said "it just hurt!", so it's perhaps worth analysing your contractions as you have them!

One thing which I'm convinced about is that if you are frightened of the contractions, if you clench up, fight through them, grit your teeth and think "NO!", you will make the whole experience more difficult. Your body is trying to open itself up. If you clench up it will find it much more difficult to do this, and it is bound to make your labour longer, more difficult and more painful (so you'll be in more pain for longer ).
So, difficult as it sounds, your best option is always to mentally welcome the contractions, relax into them, surrender to them, tell yourself to "open!", deeply relax your body and allow the contractions to do whatever they want to do to you. This is what hypnobirthing techniques aim to help you to do.

It's also worth knowing that pain is a very subjective thing. It is well known that people can put up with a lot more if they stay mentally positive, suggest to themselves that they are not in that much pain, and think hard about other things instead. The way to make pain worse is to think negatively about it and to dwell on how bad it feels.
I remember having terrible pain with a broken wrist, but I sat and managed to become engrossed in a book. I finished the book and came out of the "book dream" and all of a sudden the pain came flooding back. I remember distinctly the sudden change painfree to pain purely from having been thinking about something else. Can't read a book in labour of course, but this "getting your mind away from it affect" is the other thing that hypnbirthing techniques try to achieve.

thedollshouse · 29/03/2010 10:23

Not looking forward to them.

I have cried like a baby before when I have had period pain. I have also passed out because my period pain is so intense. What happens if I pass out with the pain of a contraction?

I had a c section with ds1 and can honestly say that I didn't have any pain. Didn't even require paracetamol after 24 hours. When I have my period I am dosed up to the max for 3-4 days.

MumNWLondon · 29/03/2010 10:33

The most important thing is to relax and not to fear them - if you are relaxed and not fearful your body releases endorphins which mask the pain. If you are panicked, tense and fearful your body released adreneline (sp) which makes them so much worse. If you think they will be horrific then they will be.

It would be lying if I said it didn't hurt when DS was born, but it was very manageable throughout - I guess like waves of intense period pains. I rented a tens machine which helps with the endorphins.

re: what it feels like - your bump tighening!

bumbums · 29/03/2010 10:40

I found walking through the contractions and lots of deep breaths really helped me cope with the pain.

I was enduced with pessery after waters broke with Maconium in them. To bring on contractions and speed things up I did 10 laps of the car park (it was late and quiet) while lunging for 10 paces with every lap.

It did the trick and I got to 8cm with no pain relief. If you can't walk around its the breathing that will get you through each pain.

Also my DH counted through the contracyions which lasted about a minute. So I knew when it was at its worst and that it would get better soon.

This was with my DC2 by the way. With my first when the bad contractions started I paniced and had every drug available!! Including epidural.

Good Luck!