MumNWLondon,
Unfortunately I found out the hard way exactly the same you found out in your chat with the midwife. The birth centre is just for show, not to be used at all.
I'm feeling cheated and very sad. Unfortunately, I lost confidence in the NHS so I'm not sure if I'm ever going to try any other birth centre in the future (I shouldn't worry about that now, I know).
I'm finding the post labour care at the RFH crap as well. I've been there again yesterday panicking thinking I had a prolapsed bladder (apparently I was wrong), after a week of constipation and after straining my bits really hard trying to poo, and spending a whole day afterwards with weird pains and cramps.
The midwife and doctor simply didn't believe when I said I was already having Lactulose, prunes, loads of water, fibre, etc etc for a week.
If they don't believe what I say, how can I believe what they say????
Basically, they just refuse to give you anything that works for constipation for days and days, then after you strain everything in the loo they say it's just that and everything will be fine.
PS: If someone reading this thread is having constipation, tell the midwives to s... off, go to Boots, buy glycerol suppositories and solve the problem. They will never give you anything that works, so you'd better sort things by yourself.