Where can I fnd out more about choosng a VBAC?

[BubblesomeBella]

Found out this morning I am pregnant with dc2.

Labour failed to progress with dd, I was 10cm dialated and pushed for an hour or more but she was stuck on my pelvic bone very high up so c-section was my only option.

Now need to start thinking about what is the best option for having dc2. The surgeon told me that I would be able to have a normal birth next time. I have my reservations though.

What if it happens again? It was horrendous and scary the first time, being rushed to theatre is not an experience I wish to repeat, nor is 21 hours of labour with no virginal birth at the end of it.

But I know there is an increased risk to the baby by having a c-section but I don't know anymore than that so need to do some readng.

Would appreciate any advice

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what if it doesn't happen agin and you can have a vb? What do you want to do?

I had a vbac and had gone through labour the first itme and was fully dilated but baby was brow presentation..

Second baby when i went in - they had my all preped up for theatre - just in case

dd2 was a back to back and although difficult and forceps it was far better than theatre only 6 hours though.

I think I want a VBAC because of the risks involved in having another CS.

But I am worried about silly things that I'm too embarrased to talk about to anyone.

Firstly I'm worried that if it does happen again, and they tell me I hve to have a CS after labouring for hours, I may not cope like I did last time, I may break down and strt crying

Secondly I'm worried my scar will burst open I don't even know if this is a possiblilty, it's just a fear I have that I push so hard it just bursts.

Thirdly (and this is the worst one) I worry that if I give birth virginlly I will feel different about dc2 than I do with dd. Obv. I love dd with everything I have, but I worry that by giving birth to dc2 it will make it different IYKWIM. I feel awful for even saying that as dd is the most important person in the world to me.

I think if I could get past these things I could quite happily go for a VBAC

www.aims.org.uk - look under their publications - Birth after caesarean or give them a call

I love my dd's both the same dd1 just has a bigger head

but its not silly to think that you may feel differently

they do keep a check on your scar - so if there was any worry them you could be into the theatre and have section- so don't worry

as for long labour - would you ask for epidural as you want to try natural birth and if it is in then can stay awake if yu need a c section? would that be an option for you ?

I had the epidural and stayed awake during my last c-section Ivy. Thanks for saying it's not silly, it feels such an awful thing to admit to feeling.

I looked at the aims website daxi, thanks for that, seems like it will answer a lot of questions