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Childbirth

Share experiences and get support around labour, birth and recovery.

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was it wonderful meeting your new baby......?

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kgc · 14/07/2005 00:29

This is baby no.4 for me and had the most amazing experience ever over my other three meeting my new baby..maybe it was a waterbirth and the others were not but anyway.......how about everyone else...any experience you want to share????

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Norash · 14/07/2005 01:21

You too gal! Hope to see you again soon , keep your head up .

Tortington · 14/07/2005 01:25

errrr no it wasn't......well it was the question

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kgc · 14/07/2005 01:29

hey Norash thanks all good here now.. and hoping all good with you

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kgc · 14/07/2005 01:30

hey custardo...sorry to hear that...want to share???

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highlander · 14/07/2005 10:25

I wasn't too bothered - it was such a shock that the wriggling thing in my tummy turned out to be a real, live screaming baby

I was very glad that DH took him off to the nursery for a couple of hours whilst I lay and thought about it all. Of course, once DS was brought back I don't think I let go of him for a few days

desperatehousewife · 14/07/2005 10:37

not particularly for me either. He looked purple, blotchy, wriggly, slimy, and i didn't know what to do with him.

Lizzylou · 14/07/2005 10:42

I was trying not to fall asleep due to all the drugs and a long labour! My first thoughts as they sucked him out with a ventouse was "what a massive bum crack"....it was probably the only thing I could see at the time....
The first night spent with him though was wonderful, even though I was knackered and he didn't sleep and I was struggling with breastfeeding, I just kept stroking his face and gazing in amazement....prob why he couldn't sleep!

WigWamBam · 14/07/2005 10:45

I couldn't tell you - I was so out of it that I can't remember the first time I saw, held or fed my dd.

expatinscotland · 14/07/2005 10:48

I passed out from exhaustion the moment she was out of me. After 32 hours w/no sleep, 24 hours of labour, not a drop of hydration throughout, and a forceps delivery. I woke up about 2 hours later completely out of it and retching.

Hope it goes better this time round, but honestly I just wanted to sleep.

Hausfrau · 14/07/2005 10:52

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mancmum · 14/07/2005 10:52

had totally different feeling with my 2 both were elective cs so I was totally relaxed painfree and happy when I looked at DS in his dads arms, I was more entranced looking at DH trying not to cry and feeling quite overwhelmed by how much he already loved him... when Iheld DS, I had an amazing feeling of "coming home" - like i was finally who I should be and when I looked at his face, it was like I had known him forever...

With DD when I held her, I felt like a party had just started... both the most amazing moments of my life... never to be forgotten...

CarolinaMoon · 14/07/2005 10:55

I just thought 'god, what a bruiser'. Ds was wrapped in a huuuge towel when I first saw him, with just his massive scarlet face poking out looking really pissed off. I genuinely wondered how dp and I could have spawned such a being.

He looked a lot more normal by the time he was brought round to me in the recovery room though, thank god.

evansmummy · 14/07/2005 12:27

I'm with nailpolish, there are no words. Just the... No can't do it, the English language is not delicate or vast or strong enough to describe it. Still get that feeling now, too.

ETsmum · 14/07/2005 20:53

Another no here I'm afraid (know I'm in the minority!!) My new baby feelings that lots of you descrbe hit somewhat late, but when they did it was lovely Thanks custardo for being honest.....thought I was the only one!

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kgc · 14/07/2005 21:00

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Hulababy · 14/07/2005 21:03

The moment I saw DD my herat melted. Tears rolled and I felt an overwhleming sense of pride, love, everything - all rolled into one. It was magical and soemthing I will nenevr forget.

SenoraPostrophe · 14/07/2005 21:06

no, I just felt utter relief.

I do remember thinking at the time that my feelings were not quite what I had been led to expect by the meeja. If I wasn't so confident/arrogant (delete as appropriate), and therefore convinced that there were others like me, but whose stories were not told very often, I would have been really upset about it.

So, all you journos, how about an article about mothers who don't instantly bond? You don't have to pay me.

morningpaper · 14/07/2005 21:08

I felt incredibly shocked that I had a baby, it just hadn't sunk in until then.

I kept shouting "OH MY GOD WE'VE GOT A BABY" and DH sais "Why the f9ck do you think we've been here for the last two days?" which took the rosy sheen off things ...

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kgc · 14/07/2005 21:39

LOL morningpaper

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Lonelymum · 14/07/2005 21:45

Loads of thoughts cross my mind.

With ds1, I was so incredibly knackered after a terrible birth that I can remember feeling mostly surprise on two counts: 1) that he was a live at all I genuinely assumed he must be dead after enduring what he did and 2) that he was a boy - I didn't realise I had this assumption but when they said congratulations you have a son, I remember being surprised and realised I must have subconsciously been expecting a girl.

Ds2 and dd I remember less about, but for days afterwards I cried with pure joy at the slightest thing. I still think I am the luckiest person alive to have had my children, although you must all feel just as lucky if not luckier than me!

Ds3, I was a bit more prosaic with. They started to put him on my chest the moment he was born and I was again pretty tired (understatement!) and yelled at them to give him to dh! When he was put on me a few minutes later, still with no nappy on, he very obligingly pooed all over me! Lovely!

ja9 · 14/07/2005 21:50

i was really surprised at how knackered i was after birth. i didnt really want to cuddle ds and didnt especially feel any amazement or awe - i was just exhausted and wanted to sleep! i always thought i would cry when my baby was born and have a real rush of love through me... but that just didnt happen. well, it didnt happen that night... but i was full of love and awe by the next morning. all the expected feelings just delayed by a few hours!

Surfermum · 14/07/2005 22:22

I'd spent years with a man who didn't want children and thought I'd never hold my own baby in my arms. I then had 2 mcs before dd, and I expected to be completely blown away by the moment I met her. I wasn't though, I just felt numb for an hour or so.

mumfor1sttime · 14/07/2005 22:31

I had an emergency c section so didnt get to hold ds straight away. I remember seeing his legs and arms waving around on the scales, and saying 'is it a boy or a girl?' I was really out of it as I was full of morphine and very shaky. Was nice seeing ds in my dh arms though. Felt really relieved!

Frizbe · 14/07/2005 22:35

I looked down at her resting on my belly and she pooed, then peed all over me....ahhhh....start as you mean to go on as they say

kid · 14/07/2005 22:37

I fell in love with my kids the moment I saw them, I was so proud that I had actually created them!

With DS, I was amazed at how gorgeous he was, I literally stared at him for hours. Not saying that DD wasn't gorgeous but I just remember it more clearly with DS.

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