I wonder if you can help me?
Sorry to pick on you Lulumana but your always on the threads with sound advice
I'm pregnant with DC2, and had a bit of a rough time with DD1 basically my birth in brief:-
2 Cord Vessel so was told pre delivery that I would be in high dependancy
Waters broke 5am on the Wednesday..
DD was back to back though I wasn't told this till I was 10cm dialated! I was at the hospital form just after midnight on the Thursday, as I'd been at home for about 4hrs and couldn't cope with the pain! I felt such a wimp when i got to the hospital (didn't know she was back to back then though!) survived on g&a till about 2am then had pethadine, hubby was sent home, then 2nd shot the next morning can't remember exact time about 10am had epidural as couldn't have any more pethadine!
I'd only got to about 4cm stayed here till about 10pm on the hormone drip but dd kept going into distress so they kept taking it off and on, was making new progress - shift swap and hormone drip went back on but they decided they couldn't keep going
and my epidural only worked on side...so I had signed the c-section forms and was prepared for theatre however they did an internal and discovered I was 10cm dialated so they would give a spinal try ventouse twice if that failed they would use forceps if that failed a emergency section...the attempt at ventouse and the final forceps delivery was done in theatre (I was cut and stitched) after I had the jab to speed up the delivery of the placenta the placenta was retained so they had to have a bit more of a feel around
so my recovery overall for me not to feel the pain where the stitches were was a good 6months probably longer, if I sat funny or moved funny from sitting I was in agony!
Rubbish Pelvic floor now I have to go to the loo when I need to go!
So at my booking in appointment my MW made an appointment for me with consultant as she wasn't sure about the chances of 2 cord vessel again (I couldnt find anything on the internet about it being hierdartary)...also we'd gone through the birth and I had discussed exploring hypnobirth...
So at 16 weeks I went to see the consultant who advised the 2cord vessel isn't herdartary and did a quick basic scan to confirm this pregnancy all seems normal!
Also discussed last birth which I said I wanted to avoid the same circumstances (instrumental) and was looking at hypnobirth and anyway he offered me an elective section...I hadn't expected that!
So now I'm in a dilema see an elective would be easier with Childcare (my mum lives 150miles away and I would prefer her to my IL's to look after DD) but its major surgery... and not being able to drive for 6 weeks woudl be a killer for me! But if ELCS hubby could take 2 weeks paternity and 2 weeks leave so not so bad...
I am scared that I won't cope with labour and birth again which I know will slow down labour! I've tried reading the Hypnobirthing book, the CD makes me want to scream (annoy voices)
Sadly I can't afford a Doula unless I win the lotto! Is there anything else I can try to go more down the natural route or would I be best going down the ELCS?
My midwife is supportive whcih ever way I decide to go but I really need some prospective on this! Is the 2nd birth likely to be like the first? do we follow our mothers birthing? I was forceps (oldest) my brother was 36hrs labour after being a month overdue (they messed up the dates and didn't believe my mum when she tried to tell them) and being induced and had forceps again....
Also I'm struggling to find a comprehensive list of the risks to mother and baby for C-sections? Is there somewhere I can look??
Thank you if you managed ot read this far without falling asleep!
xx