VBA2C ? Should I bother even trying?

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Ahhh dilemma, Not pg with #3 yet, but planning on ttc later this year
Problem is Ive had 2 emergency c/s (not for want of trying with #2 I must add)
Really want to give normal birth a shot, plus I didnt particularly like the recovery after a C/s.

Both DD and DS were overdue, OP and stuck before even dropping into the birth canal. I tried Optimal Fetal positioning etc etc.. But didnt work My body is just useless

Is it even worth trying to do it myself for the 3rd time? Or would a elective c/s just take away my stress..

Anyone with any experience/advice they could share?

Thanks all!

Hmmm... I was thinking only today about a friend who had 3 emergency CS. So she decided to go for elective CS for the 4th.

And it was awful, really, much worse than the emergency CSs; nothing truly horrible happened, but she hugely dreaded the op for most of her pregnancy and then had a series of minor and scarey complications after the actual elective CS. She said that at least with the emergency CSs she was ready for a CS, she knew by the time it happened that it really had to happen (she'd had enough of labour). So she could better resign herself to it.

I guess it depends if you would dread the idea of an elective CS like my poor friend, or if you would go into it with a shrug (I'm sure my friend's dread played a big part in the poor outcome of her elective CS).

I'll be watching this with interest as I am in a similar position (although not planning ttc yet as DD2 is only 11 weeks). DD1 was stuck above the spines, LOT and forceps could not shift her after I pushed for 2 hours. DD2 was above the spines, LOT and her heart rate was very worrying during the second stage. So I have had 2 emcs and have been told that there is probably something wrong with me that means my babies can't come out (mid-pelvic disproportion, possibly). Even when my body was having amazing pushy contractions those babies did not come down.

I imagine that if I went for a third baby I probably would have an elective because I don't want to have a third emcs, because DD2 ended up being a crash section and I would like to be awake and because the doctors assure me that with an elcs they can take the time to get the pain relief right. But you're right - I hate the recovery too and really would rather avoid CS (and I actually like labour, in between the screaming!). But that has to be weighed against avoiding the panic of last time. Who knows how I will feel when (if?) the time comes around again...

Good luck with this one!

I have just had my 3rd emcs. I am still trying to sort out how I feel about it - I think on balance I am glad that I went through labour but there are down sides too.

First was due to failure to progress - back to back. Long labour before emergency section.

Second was going fine - got to hospital, was 7-8 cm dilated having had no pain relief, feeling good about things then they realised the baby was a footling breech....

Third was awful - contractions from tuesday hnight and finally went into hospital on friday afternoon to discover that the baby was slightly OP and I was only 1cm dilated. Still kept trying for the next few hours, dilated to 7cm and then stopped. Section happened at 5am on the saturday. I hadn't slept properly for 4 nights....

I do think there is something to be said for waiting until the baby is ready to come out. I do feel fairly traumatised at the moment but it only happened 10 days ago.....

The worst thing was other people's attitudes throughout the pregnancy, Everyone thinks they are an expert and it got really annoying.

Sorry, this isn't much help! A bit sleep deprived at the mo!

Oh, I should add that I wanted four children and I really don't think I could go through another section Although I don't know what it is like to have an elective - my friend tells me it is still pretty crap.

I think I am grieving at the moment for the chance to give birth naturally and for the fourth child I wanted so much

Thank you MrsHappy and Bloomingnora, its kind of good to know that Im not the only person in the world that feels annoyed that their bodies dont do what they "should".
Nora ~ Of course you're traumatised! Its still early days.. Maybe there is still time for #4, wait and see how you feel in a year or so.... Congratulations on the birth of your baby though, what did you have?

Id still love to hear some VBAC success stories though! Anyone??

Have you looked at this VBAC site, Gina and Debbie were very helpful when I was planning my VBAC2. Check out the frequently asked questions and you can also email them for one to one support.

I had a boy (we have a DD and DS already). He is totally divine and happy, feeding really well etc - already regained body weight plus some!

It's just hard not to feel that my body is rubbish - I feel like I must have the world's crappest cervix! I AM glad I did it though and I am sure in time I will feel proud of myself for trying the best I could for my babies. It is hard to let go of the feeling that you have been delivered of your children and that you haven't actually given birth. Knowing they were ready to arrive means a huge amount now I think about it.

Good luck whatever you decide - a big factor in my favour with the consultant and midwives was the 2.5 year gap between pregnancies which apparently reduces risks of rupture.

However you end up giving birth children are soooooo precious and it is a tiny part of their lives and yours. What you do after the birth is far more important in shaping the poeple they become.

Think I may be a little hormonal

Oh forgot to say YOUR BODY IS NOT USELESS you have made two beautiful children, with a bit of advice and help I am sure you will have a good chance of achieving your VBAC2.

I am having another DS in April and this time I will be staying at home for this one.

Wow Homebirth Toady! Id love that... Thanks for the website will def check it out..

Nora - Great that your DS is doing so well! Enjoy him...