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and so onto part 3 , thought i was recovering well until horrendous pain started and was re admitted to hospital. They scanned me, couldnt find anything and sent me home in agony, a day later i developed a golf ball sized lump above the scar, back in hospital scanned again, they thought i had a haematoma.
On 27th i noticed a blister on the scar whih was leaking, went back in and they said it was dry and be fine. moving onto 2 days later, 3 hours away from home and my scar opens up again, although thnakfully this time my insides have stayed put, and is oozing thick pools of pus all over me .

So we came home and its still open, but being dressed daily.

i do wonder where the nightmare will end

ewww

yes hope the inlaws help and this is where I find other mums/dads from school so helpful! Everyone knows what it's like being in this sort of situation so I hope you have a lot of people mucking in!

christ alive!! you poor, poor woman! glad that you seem to be on the mend now though

Just which awful hospital has done all this to you? - just so we can all avoid at all costs! I'm amazed that they let you out in the first place before the stitches were removed - then "haematoma is a complication of any surgery and ditto infection" - yikes - horrendous!! Nobody should have so much as an appendix removal in the place.

Sincerely hope that you are on the mend and have an untraumatic 2010 with your lovely baby.

Mosschops, you poor poor thing. I have just read all three of your threads and am sitting like this

Am completely speechless, and quite terrified!

mosschops, I have not had a chance to read your other threads yet but it sounds like you have had a horrendous time of it. Is there any talk of using a wound vac?

bellisima - those things are common complications of any surgery. Of course the original opening is virtually unheard of, but the opening now is fairly superficial, and the insides are staying put

thanks sal, its good to know that it has happened to someone else. Can you remember what they dressed it with? I have a mepilex on it at the mo with a dressing pad taped over the top. The midwife told me to try and leave it as long as poss before changing the dressing. I have some inadine too, but not sure which would be better!

In laws are going to take me to hospital on monday and help with school run. Its hard to ask other people, all my close friends work, i dont really know any of the mums in ds's class well enough to ask for favours, he only started in september

common complications? Not of any surgery I or my friends have had - nor is sending you home after a section and sending someone round to remove stitches.

Go on, do tell us which place - if only for our peace of minds! awful!

when u have any surgery you are asked to sign a consent form which will detail any possible complications (for c section is normally infection, bleeding, damage to bowel/bladder) infection will ALWAYS be a possible complication.
The community midwife took out the original stitch which is normal.
The staples which were put in after the repair were taken out in the hospital by a senior doctor on 2 separate occasions.
I dont feel the need to name and shame the hospital as there has been no negligence on their part from a medical point of view.

I'm sorry - I thought you sounded like you had a really bad time there with 'random junior doctors' etc. My own section stitches were taken out by the ob whilst still in hospital - both here and abroad. But whatever you say. As I say, i hope that you get well soon and enjoy your baby.

belissima, I didnt mean to offend you in any way.
I was discharged the day after my section so was not in hospital to have stitch out. in any case, no matter who took the stitch out my abdomen would still have burst open because the internal stitch had gone and there was nothing to hold it once the outside stitch had been removed.

No offence honestly - just hope nothing more happens - oh and also hope people do HEAVY things for you - and finally hope that you have no snow and ice around because quite frankly bellissima walks round gingerly like a hunched up little old lady without having any wounds to worry about (once slipped badly) - so take care!

am hunched up old lady all the time at the momengt too scared to stand up straight!

I was discharged three days after a section and the midwife, actually her trainee, removed the stitch at my home about two days later. Think if you have the one stitch version it's pretty common.

yes poppet it is

Mosschops - I'm appalled to read about the things you've been through: to have all these things happen to one person (long, difficult birth, just for starters...) no wonder you must be a bit traumatised. I do hope things go OK when you DH goes back to work, are your older children capable of looking after themselves to any extent?

Might be worth contacting the Sheila Kitzinger Birth Crisis line to talk it through.

Hoping you can make the most of the weekend to rest and recover...

Oh mosschops you poor love. I'm so impressed as to how chipper you're sounding, I think I would have been in hibernate mode by now if the same had happened to me.

Sending you lots and lots of get well soon vibes.

Dear God mosschops this is all horrific

Yes, see GP regarding stress-related issues

Can you get more help after your DH is back at work? Homestart? Paid help? Some mumsnetters?

xxxx

MP is right. What is midwife doing? What support are you getting? They can't just leave you like this. Where are you - can any of us help? It's barbaric to think of you in this state.

Im in cardiff.
Luckily my eldest is 13 so is fairly self sufficient. Just ds to manage is 5, but he is the most angelic easy going child.
I am nervous about being on my own but in laws are only 5 mins away if im desparate.
I havent been discharged, am only being seen by the advanced pracs now though, and they are marvellous, im turning into a bit of a celebrity patient
I phoned the DN's and they were great, there was strikethrough so i cleaned it, and re dressed with inadine and then the mepilex over the top followed by a dressing pad. Its looking much cleaner, but the DN told me to ask for aquacell Ag when i go back to the hospital.
Thanks for the birth crisis link, will deffo look into that.

Mosschops, so sorry all this happened to you. It sounds as though you had practically all the complications it is possible to have- you were extremely unlucky. I just wanted to say to anyone who is slightly freaked out by all this that it doesn't always happen like this and some people (most?) have extremely straighforward EMCSs (if that's not a contradiction in terms)- I did. I'm not sure how I could have coped with what happened to you. I actually asked for a GA to avoid being aware of what they were doing to me during the section. You sound like a brave brave woman. I hope you manage to get some kind of counselling- I found the fact that the surgeon and community midwives popped by several times while I was still in hospital very helpful (I stayed in for over a week as baby Bug was in NICU).

Your little Noah sounds like a brilliant baby! I so wish for you that your experience of his birth had been different, but thank goodness for him.

Hi mosschops30 - I have just read your story - WOW< so shocking! I wanted to thank you for your support on my thread, (I have a copy of my notes from the hospital, but could never bring myself to read them, never even opened the envelope, but like the idea of talking trough with someone so will follow up on that) it's great to know there are other women out there with similar experiences and words of advice.
I hope you have a speedy recovery, and that you have a chance to relax and enjoy Noah soon.