Has anyone regreted try for a vbac??

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I had a tramatic first labour that ended in a emerg c section under GA. Im trying to decided what to do reguards vbac or elective but only ever seem to see positives about vbac's and im sure they dont all happen that way?
Please tell me your stories so i can see both ends of the scale..

I have had

-em c/s
-VBAC bad tearing but fabulous, was elated, so much easier recovery even with loads of deep stitches, don't regret it at all.
-VBAC first twin &
-Crash c/s 2nd twin, horrifying as me and DS almost died. With hindsight a section would have been better with the twins but I was never offered or advised one. What went wrong with twin 2 happens in only 5% of twin deliveries. Shit luck or what. Stitches down below and a section. Joyful!
-Elective c/s, straightforward but recovery very painful for 3 weeks. Was advised not to have VBAC2 as was already high risk due to previous 2 c/s and bad obstetric history.

People said you had failed by having csections

AM so for you Riven at those people who said you had failed. How dare they

earth mothers who probably wet themselves on trampolines I bet...

Yes, the earth mother types who teach their kids to be vile, judgmental brats . Do people like that actually exist? I suppose breastfeeding is comparable, but tbh I've only ever come across that sort of attitude on here rather than in real life

It never even occured to me tbh that having a cs could be seen in that way until a friend who had an emergency c-section mentioned it.

I think vaginal birth is overrated too, scar in a different place and hellish piles were my routine injuries, but I haven't had a cs so not sure how it compares. I don't think that you should feel guilty for having a vaginal birth though, it could happen to anyone who does.

Thanks for all the stories guys it has been really helpfull to hear about others experiences to help me come up with the right thing for me.

Im too very shocked by those who dare say you have failed, what some of us have gone through to end up with a section is far more than alot of people would ever want to deal with. I recon those people are so small minded to ever understand that these things are done for the saftey of the mother and baby.

One of my work colleagues (a man) always says he is in awe of women, and that we have one foot on this earth and one foot in heaven when we give birth. It's a bit of a cheesy way of saying things (but he is a big Bahamian macho man and they have a cheesy way of saying everything!)

I had a horrific first birth, em c-section, with me open on the operating table with the spinal block wearing off and daughter struggling to cling to life. (She is making up for it now though!) I came out of the hospital feeling centuries older than when I went in. The hospital staff didn't help by being patronising, condescending and unhelpful, topping it all off by attaching my catheter tube to the bed leg with a cable tie when I made my own way to SCBU to catch my first glimpse of my daughter more than 15 hours after she had been born. Apparently I should have waited for a staff member to become free to take me up there, and they didn't want me wandering again. So they fastened me by my bladder to the bed. And then the fire alarm went off, and if I hadn't thought they could be more condescending, they told me 'listen darling, you GOT to get up, none of this CAN'T. There's a fire.'

As you can probably guess, I now have an aversion to hospitals, yet have a fear that next time I will need to be close to one, 'just in case.'

Just as I did not know the first time how the birth would go, I will not know the next time either. I could opt for an elective c-section and end up with any number of complications that can arise from routine surgery. Or I could go for a VBAC and it turn out all wrong. Or I could plump for either one of them and it all go swimmingly. What I will not be able to do is choose one and know in advance if it is the right choice. You just have to go with the best advice and treatment available to you at the time.

I really wish I had had an easier birth with first child. I would not be agonising over the micro-management of the next one while only 5 wks pregnant if I had. And I'd like to slap anyone who makes crass 'too posh to push' jokes when I say I had a section first time round.

I had a very traumatic EMCS with DS1 and was terrified of having another C section, so I opted for a VBAC at home - only living 5 mins away from hospital though. Although not an easy labour my own experience of my VBAC was amazing, recovery unbelievably easier. I was walking around a few hours afterwards not believing that i felt soooo good.

Unfortunately no one can tell how your experience will go, whichever birth route you decide to go with. Some people have had really horrific experiences which thankgoodness are rare i.e. Riven and Mosschops (one VBAC, the other Section).

All you can do is fully research VBACS and Ceasareans and make an informed choice based on your individual circumstances. You need to be confident in your decision. Goodluck x

I keep meaning to post on this thread and forgetting...

I have just had a failed VBAC attempt and do not regret trying at all.

When DD1 was born I was utterly utterly shellshocked. It had never occurred to me that I might have an emcs, and I had no idea that a 7lb baby could just get stuck. I had a horrid labour, stuck on a bed, trapped by all the monitor wires, every intervention going. In the end I had an epidural and I always wondered if I "gave up" too early in having the epidural and if I should have fought to be "allowed" to move. I thought maybe if my labour had been differently managed the outcome would have been different, and I might not have been left traumatised. I had flashbacks and nightmares for months and was furious about it all.

I went for a VBAC partly because I wanted to "do it right" the next time (and also because I felt it was the safest thing to do for me and the baby).

Second time round answered a lot of those questions. This baby also got into trouble in the same position as DD1, but it was far more of an emergency- seeing the medical staff look that worried is never good. It seems I am a dud and that I just can't have babies the old fashioned way. But I do not regret letting DD2 pick her birthday, or discovering that I can cope with labour (and that I even liked some of it!). But if there is another baby I'll be having a planned section, and would be doing so even if I hadn't been advised that I don't really have a choice because DD2 was in quite a lot of danger and I would not want to repeat that.