Healing time of second degree tear?

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I gave birth 9 weeks ago and had a second degree tear over an existing episiotomy scar. Had a couple of stitches but still feel really sore and sex (only attempted once) was incredibly sore. (Felt like the scar was going to re-open).

Should things be back to normal by now? What's normal in terms of healing? Had my 8 week check yesterday and asked GP who clearly wasn't interested and suggested that I should contact my midwife - is this the right path to take or should I make an appointment to see another GP?

Whilst it seems like 9 weeks is an eternity it really isn't.

My wife had a tear and it took a fair while to heal properly (I forget how long exactly but longer than 9 weeks).

Your GP sounds extremely unhelpful - can you make an appointment with another GP at your practice? Failing that, do talk to your midwife - they'll have had a stack of experience with this sort of thing and may be able to advise or if not at least point you to a more helpful GP.

I'd also really recommend tea-tree oil and/or lavender oil in the bath - just a few drops. They sell it most health shops or even in the local pharmacy. Tiny bottles though so you may have to ask (I did!).

A few drops in the bath really helped ease my wife's discomfort and helped the healing process.

As for sex, persevere but take your time. The bad news is it will hurt for a while but the good news is it does get better (I promise!). Keep talking to your other half about it. When it was me we were both really put off it (her for obvious reasons) me for fear of hurting her. Keep talking; explain your concerns to one another and you'll soon be back on track.

Good luck!

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it took 4 mths before i was remotely comfortable and over a yr for it to stop hurting altogether wentt o gp several times but was examined and all was well it was some psychological issues too of knowing also use lubrication every times for a while until you can relax fully

my ds is 4 and i can still get pains where stitches were at times