Hi CSLB
Congratulations on your baby, but sorry about the post birth issues.
I have been refered to a women's health physio for pelvic floor issues so I thought I might share some of her words of wisdom. I didnt have forceps but a very large (nearly 11 lb baby) and my whole PF and vagina felt stretched beyond belief.
Its very common to have issues and many people wont admit it apparently.
10 wks is very very early in the post birth recovery process. She said to me (when i saw her at 7.5mths post birth) that it can take a whole year for body to recover especially if breastfeeding as it causes the muscles to be quite relaxed. So try not to worry that you will be like this forever. As I am now dropping breastfeeds, I can feel my body improving along side of the treatment
Assuming you are not completely incontinent but occastionally or suffering stress incontinence, good pelvic floor exercises should help you.. However the other poster is right, its worth getting someone to feel how effective the exercises are on your muscles by inserting a finger.
Once I'd perfected doing the exercises (wasnt doing it right at all) I was told to do it 3 times a day, and to sit down and completely concentrate on it. Being careful not to squeeze buttocks in process!
Depending on how bad you are you may need other treatment. My muscles were 1 on scale of 1 to 10 and so my physio has started electro stimulation therapy. Which while sounds alarming isnt that bad, rather like having a TENS machine up inside you. That has really helped to kick start my recovery and makes doing exercises easier.
Sorry have written esssay, but I know how bad this stuff is to live with so do make sure the consultant helps you do exercises properly. I'd push for examination if he doesnt offer it and keep at it.
Good luck!