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Let's talk elective cesarian please.

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wb · 08/11/2009 21:23

Am starting to think about conceiving dc3 and one of the big question-marks over the whole idea (at least for me) is how the baby is going to come out.

Briefly, both ds1 and ds2 were OP babies - ds2 did turn during labor but was very big. Anyway, although both were vaginal births, on both occasions they became distressed during 'pushing' and were delivered using forceps. I have no argument with this, and found neither birth particularly traumatic, but the residual damage/scarring to my pelvic floor is considerable and I really don't want a third forceps delivery for this reason (although of course if I found myself in the same position again I'd agree straight away cause would want them out safely asap).

So anyway, if I do go for no. 3, do you think I should consider asking for a c-section? And who could I discuss this with? I have to admit I'm not keen at all on the idea but neither am I keen on, say, incontinence, or more scar tissue.

With ds2 by the way I had a 1-1 midwife who was really great at keeping me mobile etc so I don't think there is anything more I could have done to avoid the forceps.

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Peta100 · 13/11/2009 14:08

Yes, u should absolutely ask for one.

I'm all for choice and the mother being allowed to decide on what kind of birth she would like. The NHS tends to be very authoritarian and sometimes are not always correct or even accurate with their decisions.

Good luck, hope u get it!!!

Lotster · 13/11/2009 14:40

Hi again! What have you decided?

Having been a similar position to you, I just wanted to say that although there are certainly more risks compared to a straightforward vaginal birth as people keep posting; you are not guaranteed a straightforward birth, so ask you docs to adjust the risks for you. If they suggest a VB could go well then maybe you should do it.

As someone who had a lot of damage from the birth and subsequent ops, I would have been taking more risks going vaginally. So if you do choose CS the anaesthatist will run you through all the risks and stats and if they're like mine was, compare it to your chances of being hit by a car or winning the lottery (!) but you may want to ask for this info in advance of your decision.

Looking forward to your birth announcement!

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