post natal problems sorry if TMI but was wondering if anyone else has had this

[slushy06]

I had dc2 3 months ago no stitches required. But anyhow this is the problem every time I try to have a poo the front wall of my vagina seems to collapse and my cervix drops down to the entrance this is starting to make me ill as I find it v difficult to empty my bowels.

This is making sex v uncomfortable and painful I saw a doctor and he said 'everything was normal after just having had a baby and vb always damages the area, either you end up with nasty tears or you stretch beyond endurance and it never goes back again'.

But I didn't have this after ds so what I am asking is have any of you ladies experienced this and if so is there any way to make it better I have seen 6 different health professionals and been referred all through the system all of them said something is wrong but they didn't know what was eventually referred to the senior obestrician I think who said the above comment and discharged me. This is really depressing me now I am currently doing 120 pelvic floors but nothing is helping, any advice.

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by the way..disgusted at the doctors comments..so basically he is saying that once youve given birth you should except that you may end up ferrying your pelvic floor around in a wheelbarrow

memory the doctor also said this is why he preferred c-sections as they apparently do less damage he was v condescending and tried to at first talk me out of anything being wrong without examining me until I told him that I had been referred for a reason. I kinda pity him as he obviously felt extremely uncomfortable examining someones ladybits yet probably has to do it regularly.

hmm..you definitely need to see a different doctor..was this the gynae consultant or your gp?

My gp is lovely the idiot doctor was not a gynae consultant as gynae kept saying I had to see a pg consultant because I have just had a baby they said they are not insured to examine me so they referred me to obstetrician who said the offensive remarks.

Slushy thats bizarre! its not an obstetric matter..its a gynae matter..go back to your GP and ask to see a different gynae consultant

slushy i only had my dd 7 weeks ago so nothing has been dnoe yet, been told to do pelvic floors, no prolonged standing/walking and avoid heavy lifting (including my 3.5year old ds)

have my 6-8 week check in just over a week so im wondering if they are gonna even look at it. is nowhere near as bad and tbh it isnt poking out anymore but if i have a poke i can feel it.

even if they offer surgery they say to wait til u have finished having children and as im only 22 im in no rush for the surgery. Do u get a throbbing in your lower back? thats another sign of a cystocele. I get it after doing all the things im not allowed!

im in no rush for the surgery even if its offered cos at 22 i dont know weather i have finished having children or not, dont like the prospect of it being like it was after i had dd though if i have more kids.

The only time i feel major pressure atm is when im on the toilet. im thinking its nowhere near as bad now...pelvic floors are defo the way forward haha!

I have had alot of back pain I also don't want surgery as I am 21 and I don't know yet if I am happy to stick with two or if I want a third so I guess that puts surgery out.

Funnily it was not as bad when I first gave birth then I went and lugged the shopping up a big hill even though I was told not too .

When will I learn that if you rush recovery it will only take longer.