I had a weird section with my first DD (basically an upside down T shaped cut was made on my womb as her head was trapped) and so I need a section this time. Every time I see a medical professional they tell me I should have a VBAC as there is a 0.3% chance of scar rupture, and I have to correct them and say actually with me it is up to 9%. The surgeon who did the section told me afterwards I would never be able to manage a vaginal birth.
One doctor (when I went in with suspected early labour) even said I wouldn't have had a cut like that because it is so rare and would be in my notes! I told her I had DD in another area and the consultant said he was writing off for my notes weeks ago, and she just told me to ask at my 36 week appointment with him - DD was born at 36 weeks!
I have visions of having to argue for a section whilst in labour, as most midwives I have spoken to have never even heard of a T shaped cut.
I have also had serious mental health problems, and have been told to avoid stress at all costs. I have done my research and a lot of soul searching and I honestly feel that, on balance, a section is best for these reasons too. DDs birth was a horrific mess, mainly down to nobody seeming to know what on earth was going on, and so I am petrified of being left to labour with hardly any pain relief and being told I'm not really in labour and so on, followed by a section at 10cm and all the extra complications of an emergency section.
Are there magic words I can say that will make them see I am not making all this up? Or some way I can get my notes to arrive from Preston to Gateshead?