Was it right to have both your partner and mother at your delivery?

[Sn0wflake]

Hello,

Would be very grateful if people could spell out the positives and negatives. I know everybody's relationships are different and I can't read across your experiences to mine....but maybe you can give me a bit of clarity.

I love my mother and we have a close and open relationship and I thought I wanted her to be at the birth of my first child as well as my DH. She visited recently and I had a massively stressful emotional time with her. She has a much more pushy personality than me and I wonder if it is a mistake to have her there and that I will just be more stressed.

DH just wants what is best for me but has mentioned that we have an emotional relationship and he hopes that doesn't come up.

Really not sure what to do.

Thanks

I'm firmly of the opinion that only those present at conception should be present at birth - but that's just me.

I am actually thinking of asking mil to be there at the birth of number 2. She is brilliant and I am not sure dh will be there.
Do what's right for you.