Bacon, I have not yet decided whether I'll opt to try a VBAC or go for an elective CS next time
even if I do opt to try a VBAC, I know that that doesnt mean it wont end in another CS so I want to know as much about it as possible to be prepared
this time I have no numbness and was off the pain killers in a week (which by then I was taking more for back pain following epidural than scar pain). have a nice neat scar with no infection. Talking to others I have realised that my recovery has been maybe unusually easy so I might have an incorrect idea about what it would be like next time, and I'll have DS1 to look after too so worth thinking about
on the one hand, I think that surgery is best avoided unless absolutely necessary. I worry about numbness and probs associated with scar tissue and infection.
on the other hand, I think that an elective cs would be preferable to an emergency or even a crash one. had to have mine with an epidural as no time to change to spinal block, I didnt just feel pressure, I felt EVERYTHING - it was horrible even with g&a to help. I was determined to stay awake and see him though, which luckily I got to do for a few mins before they had to give me a general anaesthetic to intubate me as the raised epidural made me shake so badly that i wasnt able to maintain my airways and was going blue. I'm so glad i got to see him at the birth as I recognised him from that when they brought him to me to bf in recovery while i was still pretty out of it.
a friend who had a crash cs refused to believe that her baby was hers for hours afterwards. - I am scared of something like that happening. at least with an elective cs, DH can be in the room and I could have a spinal block and meet the baby when its born.
I would not feel cheated if I never have a vaginal birth, I dont think a CS birth is any less valid. I will want to choose whatever is safest for me and the baby and whichever will best facilitate bonding and recovery etc.