How long did it take before you actually wanted another DC?

[babyignoramus]

My DS is 8 weeks old. At the moment I can envisage having more children, but can't imagine ever wanting to go through another pregnancy/birth/newborn phase.

My pregnancy was tough at the end as I am very short (under 5 foot) and while DS wasn't that big, I was absolutely packed to the rafters and couldn't walk for the last couple of weeks due to my back seizing up completely. I can't imagine being able to cope with that with a toddler to look after as well!

I had an emergency caesarean and while that wasn't that traumatic I found the early stages when I was in agony absolutely awful - I was contracting every 3 mins with Cx that I couldn't talk through for about 7-8 hours before the hospital would admit me - and even then it was only because my waters broke with meconium in them. It made no sense to me that they could give me an epidural when only an hour before they had told me I could only have paracetemol and the pain was the same!

Dh's friend asked yesterday if we'd have any more and Dh answered yes without even hesitating - I said I wasn't sure. Dh was surprised and said that he thought I'd want more as I know what it's like to be an only child (I was 8 when my sis was born). But I'm not sure I can overcome my fear of being in agony in late pregnancy and having a difficult birth again.

That was rather long - honestly, how long did it take you to forget all that? I know it's early days and when the memories fade I'll probably feel different.

DD is 2.8 and we still haven't decided whether to try for another yet, despite me being in my late thirties so possibly running out of time. I told myself the decision would be made by the end of last year, but it wasn't. Who knows what'll happen?

mines 19 mnths and only just considering it for next few months mayb. if u had asked me after 8 weeks the answer would b yes but not for at least 5 yrs!! but things change, i am not going to say u forget (cos u never will) but just seeing ur child growing and changing is the most amazing experiance and i couldnt imagin never doing it again!

I waited for 11 years

traumatic first labour and difficult ds = 4 1/2 years between my two.

With my first and second child it took until potty training was achieved to want another. My husband and I were having problems though when DD2 was 2 (with our marriage - not with fertility) so I didn't get pregnant again till she was 4. Then after having twins I thought 4 was enough for about 3 years. It took 5 years after that to talk my husband into it so the children will be 17, 14, and twins nearly 9 when the new baby is born. Sometimes I wish we'd not wasted so much time and had 7. My husband does not agree!

I liked the childbirth experience so much that I immediately wanted to do it again! We did however wait 11months before I got pregnant again.