Hi,
I apologise in advance long and whinney.
I know this is a dumb question because the midwife I see at the moment could be on holiday, off sick or just off rota but what is the likelihood that she will be the one to deliver my baby. I ask because I don't like her. She is a community midwife who I know is very experienced but I find her manner and aloofness off putting.
To give some backgrouond, the first time I met her I was very excited I had found out late (10 weeks) that I was expecting - which when you have been told you will never have children was a bit of a surprise hence the late detection - I thought he was a stomach bug! Anyway I asked a couple of questions as you do and she just said 'we can discuss them later after your scan if the baby is viable'. I thought this was a horrid way to treat a new mum. Anyway at 16 weeks I went to see her and she was on holiday I had a lovely locum midwife who took time and care explaining everything I wanted to know.
I went again for a 25week appointment and there was a male student doctor in the room, she did not ask if I minded him being there and proceeded to discuss me as though I was not there. 'This is xxxx and she is under obs care as well as mine because she is overweight. She will have problems because of this and we have to check her extra carefully hence all the appointments she has got.' She made me feel like I was a pain in the neck to her and when she took my blood pressure and looked at my ankles and stomach she was very sniffy and surprised that all was normal, she said 'that is likely to change as she (not my name) gets further on'.
She even said to him - 'come over and have a feel of the baby' which he did and to be honest this is when he introduced himself and asked if I minded - she just rolled her eyes and tutted!
I also felt put out that my questions were answered with one word scornful answers as though I should not dare to ask them.
The only ggod news I have is that she is off for my next appointment so I may get someone nice. At my next I am due to have bloods taken but the following day I have a GTT and I don't wish to be like a pin cushion. I asked her if I could just get the hospital to run my routine bloods alongside the GTT and she begrudgingly said I suppose so, then proceeded to write on my notes - bloods must be taken at 28 week appointment.
I really really don't like her and I don't want her at my birth - I can't say no at the surgery because she is the only one assigned to this area (I live in the sticks) but surely I can request not to have her at the hospital - I have visions of her telling me to shut up and ignoring my requests for pain relief she seems that type of person.