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First time home birthers and their support squad

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jollyjoanne · 21/03/2009 20:17

Not a homebirther personally but wanting to offer support to Boobz and others who are going for a home birth . . .

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nannyl · 17/09/2011 10:39

Here is my homebirth story.. baby born on wednesday evening...
at home, as planned, having practised natal hypnotherapy.

was so quick only 1 midwife made it here on time (just)... other arrived 10 mins later....

the best experiance ever and a bit of luck i planned to be at home..... i wouls never have made it to hospital and had i have tried she would have been born in the car...

had to justify my decision to so many people who thought i was mad / stupid / very selfish for not planning to be in a hospital, but clearly for me it was right, and i took after my grandmothers of super quick labours, following horrendous HG pregnancies!

(copy & pasted from the natal hypnotherapy thread)

"Hello
I will add my views too... I gave birth 3 days ago, at 40+3 and have been using the CD's since 16 weeks pregnant.

What an amazing homebirth I had!!!!!!!!

I have always been of the opinion that giving birth is natural / normal / part of life that the whole human race has done before etc, so when i herd about "hypnobirthing" I knew it was something i wanted to try, and i fell into the "natal hypnotherapy" version, when i found one of the CDs and the NCT nearly new sale
I liked it, bought the book, and read it cover to cover, and was positive about birth (and planning a homebirth) from before even being pregnant.

The CD's and the book just confirmed to me that there was nothing to worry about, and i didnt.

I wondered if these "pains" could be contractions at about 1330, but wasnt sure.... had some lunch, made some bread, then went upstairs and listened to my CD again. I realised they probably were contractions, but were NOT unbearable or anything.... i just breathed and they were gone again.

called daddy and hospitsl at 1530.(only called hospital as my midwife said please call before 1630 if in doubt so community midwife on call could not be called out a few moments after getting home, otherwise id have waited longer)

Midwife called me at 1600.... all fine.. i made some flap jack
1700 OH home and TENS machine on level 1

we had some tea

she called back at 1900, by which time i was having to lean on table and breath during my conctractions... 4 mins ish apart, 45 seconds long.

1915 i wanted to be alone, so while OH filled my pool, i went up to my bedroom, put down blackout blind, and just laboured by myself if pitch black room... all fine, very relaxed, calm and silent

2130 i vomited so decided to call hospital to let them know.... midwife called me back and said she'd come round. Was relieved she was coming but not desperate...

2200 ish midwife arrived... brings in stuff etc etc
starts to do her ' midwife stuff' at 2210 ish i think.... so we wait for gaps between contractions for her to do pulse / BP / examine me...

probably examined me about 2220... 7cm....

went to loo 1 last time (I think i had transition on the loo! i made a aggghhhh noise!) and tried to make it downstairs which i did just, between contractions...

Pool too hot so knelt on sofa....
waters went
4 contractions later she was out at 2237.

No pain-relief except TENS which by birth was up to level 4 and on boost for duration of the birth!

Much faster than i imagined possible, and i had no time for my pool / birth music / to be naked (which were all crucial parts of my birth plan for me!) but im sure the saying "breathing in golden light (for the count of 4) breathing out releasing tension (for the count of 6)" made each contraction only last 4 breaths...

all completely manageable and not really painful at all. (id describe a nasty paper corregated card cut as worse than giving birth)

My 2 stitches (with about 10 puffs of gas and air) were far far worse than the birth itself.
For me the hour after birth was much much worse than the hour before.

I cannot recommend the CDs enough..... and birth was so much better than even i had ever imagined, and even though i was pretty certain everything would be fine!

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nannyl · 17/09/2011 13:22

natal hypnotherapy website

stuff on amazon

i used pregnancy relaxation from 16 - 32 weeks
effective homebirth preperation from 32 weeks onwards
i had birthing music but never got a chance to listen (i never actually had a chance to take my knickers off either!)

and the book, read cover to cover

also recommend the heart in the womb especially if thinking about a home birth (the safest place there is to give birth to a low risk baby Wink)

motherofsnortpigs · 17/09/2011 15:35

Congratulations nannyl It sounds like it went really well. Have you given your baby a name? Enjoy your babymoon!

PinkFondantFancy · 21/09/2011 07:29

I just wanted to second nannyl's vote for the hypnotherapy CDs. I had a wonderful homebirth on Friday night and counting the breaths in and out and doing the visualisations made the contractions so much easier. I'll be back later with the full story.

PinkFondantFancy · 21/09/2011 08:09

DH and I had originally planned a hospital birth, and we'd already hired an independent midwife as I wanted the consistency of support all the way through the pregnancy and afterwards. But after we'd been to the NCT classes and did more research we started to think that given you have to do most of your labouring at home anyway, if things are going well why not stay put? I'd originally felt that the hospital would be a safer place to give birth but the research suggests that a homebirth is as safe for a low risk pregnancy and also has extra benefits.

The midwife was more than happy to support us in a homebirth so she dropped off the birthing pool and a huge box of other stuff a few weeks ago.

The birth itself was completely amazing. I'd been preparing by listening to a natal hypnotherapy cd a few times a week and going to pregnancy yoga. At 4am on Friday morning my waters broke in bed. By 10am I was having mild contractions, and by 1pm ish they were getting strong enough that I had to stop what I was doing to concentrate on breathing through them. The midwife came at 6ish and I was 6cm dilated. At about 9ish I got into the pool and started pushing what seemed like shortly after. DD was born all at once at 22:41 and was so relaxed that slthough she was breathing she didn't cry for ages. Once the cord stopped pulsating, DH cut the cord and I went upstairs to deliver the placenta on the loo. The midwives then tucked the three of us up in bed, showed me how to feed DD, then cleaned up and let themselves out. It was incredible.

I read Home Birth: a practical guide when trying to decide whether to go for it and found it really helpful. The main thing that convinced me was that I was previously happy to go to hospital anyway, so opting for a homebirth just gave me more options. If at any stage you don't feel comfortable staying at home, you can transfer in.

I can't recommend a water birth enough, it was fantastic and made all the difference. I'm not sure I could have gone without pain relief without it.

KellyKettle · 21/09/2011 12:07

bookmarking again as this has dropped off "threads I'm on".

Going back to read the thread...

GirlWithTheMouseyHair · 21/09/2011 13:55

Congrats KT nannyl and PinkFondant (I was wondering what you'd gone for in the end having read some of your other threads), hope you're all having lovely times with your newborns!

How is everyone else doing now? I've got 2 months til due date and feel so ridiculously heavily pregnant already - at this stage with DS I was still running round like a loon and now I'm at the osteopaths every week trying to get some relief from the chronic pelvic pain, can't even sit down for more than 10mins without getting pains up my back, it's PITA

Other than that everything going ok, baby is moving a lot more than she was which is good for the anxiety. Starting up the pregnancy yoga classes tonight that I did last time round too and booking in DH to the labour massage class we also did last time - luckily I seem to be the kind of labouring woman who likes to be touched and massaged as opposed to having nobody within several miles of me, and it really helped both of us through our homebirth last time I think.

KellyKettle · 21/09/2011 14:10

Congratulations KT, Nanny and Pink

I am pleased to hear the Natal Hypnotherapy is working out for so many!

I am 35 weeks now. Starting mat leave this week so I am really looking forward to that and spending some time with DD before Dc2 arrives.

We're giving the pool a trial run next week (after the new boiler is installed - eek!).

I feel fine, some hip pain which I am having chiropractic for - along with the webster technique for turning malpositioned babies. I can't tell what position this one is in, kicks to the upper right but no obvious back or bum lumps on left so perhaps LOT...I am guessing after obsessively reading spinningbabies.com. DD was back to back and I am not sure I could cope with another labour like that.

Pregnant yoga here too which has been lovely. I am finding that I wake for an hour or so during the night and it catches up with me in the afternoons. I think I will go and do some stretches and have a nap on the sofa listening to NH on my iphone.

Any news from MissTriangle (9th Sept), Reality (19th Sept) and Jammyscone (21st Sept)?

Boobz · 21/09/2011 15:19

Hello everyone! Again I have left it far toooo long and so much has happened. Where to start?!

Jennifer - I hope you are recovering well and Elise is doing great. Sorry to hear it didn't go to plan, but do come back and post your story when you can - I'm sure we'd all like to hear how these things sometimes go when it's not what you've planned - and to support you if you need us.

Motherofsnortpigs I knew you were out there somewhere. I loved your birth story - I'm not sure if it was supposed to make me laugh but it did! Sounds like you did fab and Percy doing so well. Can't believe it took you over 4 months to post your story though...

Congratulaitons KT - oh my god how huge is Edwin?! I saw a baby born on Homebirth Diaries that was about 11.5 lbs once and god it made me wince watching that so well done! Any photos to share?

Nannyl you are the posterchild for hypnobirthing - so glad it went so well.

I know it's a while ago but welcome Elise Olivia - well done Jennifer. I want to see photos of all these babies - please put some pics up!

Welcome Reality - I am off to read your blog after updating here. I have my own blog about midwifery in Sudan, but I don't think it's really a light-hearted read for the homebirthers out there...

And congratulations to Pink as well.

Notfromconcentrate - you are due the same time as me so we'll be in this for the long haul together. I am 16 weeks today. When is your due date so I can put us in the right order?

learningfast - what happened?! You can't still be pregnant - no matter how patient your MW is! Come back and let us know your LO arrived safely.. (and hopefully at home).

And any news from LoveBeingAtHomeOnMyOwn and others who are due about now?
Kelly - I think DD1 was back to back as well, as the pain was all in the small of my back and the latent stage took forever... DD2 was in a perfect position and it was much easier, so fingers crossed for you that your spinning babies dedication has paid off.

As for me, I have just received an email from Kingston university asking me for an interview for the midwifery degree, which I am very chuffed about. King?s College is my first choice, but am glad to have at least one interview in the bank. Am coming back to the UK for a scan in mid October and will be seeing the lovely Girlwiththemouseyhair who I am gutted is leaving our little South london clan for warmer weather across the seas. Sob.
God this has been epic updating! I hope I have got it all right. Will not leave it so long in future!

DUE
minicorrect, due 31 July, DC2
Ohanotherone, due August DC2
LearningFast, due 24 August, DC1
LoveBeingAtHomeOnMyOwn, due 8 September
MissTriangle, due 9 Sept, DC1
RealityVonCrapp , due 19 September, DC3
KateeTheBump, due 16 October, DC1
KellyKettle, due 28 Oct, DC2
GirlWithTheMouseyHair, due 24 November, DC2
Tortoiseonthehalfshell, due 26 November, DC2;
emsies, due 2 Dec, DC2
redheadbedhead, due 23 Jan 2012 DC1
Boobz, due March 2012, DC3

ARRIVED
SelinaDoula, Baby boy Finn arrived 5 days overdue Aug 3, quick homebirth but transfer due to tear.
JenniL, Baby girl Elise Olivia arrived 28 Aug, crash section due to placental abruption.
KtisPG, Baby boy Edwin James arrived very overdue on 10 Sept, fab hospital waterbirth.
Nannyl, Baby girl born 14 Sept, amazing hypnobirth at home.

motherofsnortpigs · 21/09/2011 19:16

Congratulations pink

Ha ha boobz I barely have time to breathe some days let alone post on mn. And Percy is only 3 and a bit months Wink Just finished feeding him now to read stories to the DD's. Humph is already asleep. Not sure exactly how many I'm expecting for dinner...

usingapseudonym · 21/09/2011 22:07

Hello! (emsies here - changed name a while back).

I'm going into hospital tomorrow for a VBAC appointment with my doula and the hospital MW and should then make a final decision whether to birth at home or not. I keep chaniging my mind!

Lovely to hear all the lovely positive stories :) I've been offered the local MLU so may end up labouring at home but popping in their briefly (i hope) not sure yet. Will find out tomorrow....

KellyKettle · 22/09/2011 06:32

Good luck UAP let us know how you get on!

2BlackCats · 22/09/2011 09:09

Just missed the updated stats, but hoping for a homebirth for DC2 :) Due today but expect to last another week. Am going for a balanced approach with homebirth being the ideal but MLU still an option with hospital if necessary. Did have a scare a couple of weeks ago due to concerns that I had an unstable lie but that seems to have been the result of baby moving into the correct position as it doesn't seem to have moved away again. That was all a bit of a shock with discussion about next day ARM, induction and possible cesarean, but all looks well now so fingers crossed it all pans out...

Watch this space!

KellyKettle · 22/09/2011 09:20

when are you due 2blackcats?

2BlackCats · 22/09/2011 13:34

Due today Kelly, although certain that baby has flipped to the other side since yesterday as there are definately limbs where there weren't any yesterday! Hopefully just a rotation and head still in position.

Bet you are glad you have started maternity leave, I caved in really early at 32 weeks this time, but actually have found it quite hard work being off with DD so am feeling exhausted most of the time, my plan is just to keep eating this week to make sure that I have plenty of energy stocked up...

usingapseudonym · 22/09/2011 17:39

Hmm didn't find VBAC appointment overly helpful. They are pro VBAC (obviously as they are a VBAC clinic) but quite anti homebirth in case of a rupture. Its a silly tiny risk BUT if it happened it would be disasterous at home.

Hmmm.

KellyKettle · 22/09/2011 17:46

Sorry UAP How do you feel about that?

I read that the risk is less than 0.05% but I can't back that up at the moment. Got to make dinner before MW comes. I can find a link tomorrow if you'd like.

usingapseudonym · 22/09/2011 20:02

Bit torn now :S

I think the risk is supposed to be 0.5% BUT that includes all sort of people, like those being induced and all the partial ruptures which aren't catastrophic. It is a really really really small risk BUT if it happened at home I'd be likely to lose the baby and that's stuck in my mind. However a uterine rupture does sometimes happen to first time mums and I wasn't worried about it when I planned my first hb (the one that ended up c section) its just that as a previous c section they are treating me like a walking risk.... :(

I'm still officially down for a hbac as I do want a home birth but not sure. I think i will be more stressed going into hospital (they want to monitor constantly, time progress etc) but I don't know if I'll be ok at home with a lingering worry in the back of my mind. They do say they will support a home birth but don't at all recommend it.

I really wish the VBAc midwives had been more positive -surely positive stories have to help state of mind and hence labour..?!

GirlWithTheMouseyHair · 22/09/2011 20:22

is it worth talking to some community midwives UAP? just to get second medical opinion, I'm sure I've heard stories of women successfully HBAC. Maybe the lack of support is down to them making sure if anything does happen you can't say they didn't warn you and don't sue them, just being really cynical of their motives here! (Have just finished reading Naomi Wolf's "Misconceptions" and now think any medical expert who is even slightly disparaging of HB is covering their own backs and not caring about the pregnant woman at all)

well done on your update boobz, posts like that put me to shame!!

2blackcats keep us updated won't you?!

usingapseudonym · 22/09/2011 21:06

It seems to be the partly line they all spout - my community mw and the supervisor of mw are both "supportive" and I'm sure would be fab in a hb situation BUT say they don't advise it and that yes if it ruptured it would be bad. Which I'm sure is true but surely lots of risks in life are 0.5 but we still cross roads etc.

I've heard of lots of successful HBACs too (and presumably I'd have a 95.5% chance of NOT rupturing) so most likely be successful but but but. Sigh. Grrr.

GirlWithTheMouseyHair · 22/09/2011 21:34

so frustrating because it must be making your head go round and round now

KellyKettle · 23/09/2011 02:22

99.5% of not rupturing!

Just looking for the article I saw this week....

KellyKettle · 23/09/2011 02:41

birthwithoutfearblog.com/2011/09/06/a-uterine-rupture-a-look-at-20-peer-reviewed-publications/

You're right, the 0.05% figure is all pregnancies. Vbac is nearer 0.5%.

And I hear what you're saying about the risk to the baby if it did happen.

This article is really good & sites it's sources on VBAC and risk:

midwifethinking.com/2011/02/23/vbac-making-a-mountain-out-of-a-molehill/

KellyKettle · 23/09/2011 02:41

Ps apologies if the links don't click through, posting from app.