Birth reflections type service at Whipps Cross

[thepurplestar]

Has anyone on here successfully been given a meeting where someone goes through your notes and explains what happened to you?

I had a really bad experience (ended in crash section), and I need some closure. I first contacted a HV about this in October, have been in touch with PALS and Midwifery, but it seems that no-one can find my notes - personally I just think they are fobbing me off. I'd be interested if anyone else managed to get Whipps to do this for them?

I had that - but not at Whipps Croass. Keep asking. The service at our hospital is called "Birth Afterthoughts" and is a MW run service - it was really good to get the closure. Keep asking.

Good luck - I'm sad to say that my niece was born at Whipps Cross and they were so appalling that they had to pay her compensation

I had mine at Newham General and wrote a letter to the head of Midwifery. Like you I had an emergency c section. I made sure the tone of my letter was more of one wanting to give constructive feedback on my experience and to be able to ask questions, I was careful not to be too critical as at that stage I wanted to know the reasons for what had happened. I'm pleased to say I was treated well and was granted a meeting with a head of Midwifery and a Consultant who were apologetic for mistakes that had been made and were very helpful in explaining things which maybe couldn't have been avoided.

In terms in how it helped my husband and I it was the best thing to have done and really helped us get over the experience. I'd really keep trying to be seen especially if you're wanting to have more children as I am now 20 weeks and although I'm (we're) anxious, I know I'd be feeling much worse had I not gone through with the letter and debriefing.

If anything I think my husband benefited from this process the most as he'd had to witness the whole thing and had been powerless.

Hope it helps.