are these normal feelings after birth?

[mad4mybaby]

I had my ds2 2 weeks ago today. I had bad pnd with ds (2.5) and i thought i was ok at the time but obv wasnt. completely diff situation as ds1 was very ill and wont go into that as v long winded.

Basically im quite up and down but think this to be normal 2 weeks post birth. The other thing is that for some reason i keep taking myself back to the birth which went very well but quick. Much more enjoyable experience than ds1 birth (not enjoyable but better). I dont know why i keep going through the birth in my head? Nothing happened against my wishes or anything.

Is this normal? Is anyone else feeling like this?

You sound totally normal to me.

My ds2 was also very quick, much quicker than I had anticipated anyway, and it took me a while to wrap my head around it. I was in shock for a little while after the birth.
I think it's also just the change of going from 1 to 2. It took me a good month of getting used to it. There was nothing particularly difficult about it, it just took some adjusting.

Try to remember that you are going through a huge life change with another baby, plus your hormones are still all over the place.

Congratulations btw.

Totally normal, i spent the first few weeks after DD's birth constantly thinking about the birth (not great) i kept going over and over it in my head, but then then the memories started to fade, i hardly think of it at all now and can't really remember much of it! Even caught myself thinking 'it can't have been that bad i suppose'

when are hormones supposed to settle down? Ive had such an awful day today. Shouted at both ds's. Crying. One day im like 'i can handle this' feel ok and then other days like today im just feeling so negative and down...

Hi mad4mybaby, how are you doing today?
I think anyone can suffer with a bit of pnd whether or not the birth went to plan or was long or short. It's such a huge thing to happen to you both physically and emotionally. You can't rush your way into feeling better but you've been here before (albeit different circumstances) and you know you will come through it. I too replayed the birth constantly for a while before the memories faded - I think I just had to come to terms with it, not sure why. I'm guessing that's perfectly normal. Good luck.

hi, havnt had time to think bout how i feel today, been manic. only just managed to have a wee just now! I started a thread in mental health last night about how im feeling...

just feeling very confused

Just take it one day at a time and you will be fine. ds1 was only 20 months when ds2 was born and they were many days when both of them started to cry and I would just cry right along with them wondering if I could handle it.

Do you have family close or at least close friends to come and help you. Make sure you reach out to your partner.
Make sure you ask for some help if you are feeling overhwelmed.

dh works long hours and works away most mon-fri. i dont really have anyone to help....

Hi Mad4 - I also returned to birth constantly for the first weeks (and also had an urge to talked about it to everybody). But: if you had PND before and have ups and downs, I would mention it to the health visitor. Surely a little support couldn't do any harm? All the best.

my ds1 is 5 next week and ds2 10 months and i constantly think about the birth's. its the most amazing thing you'll ever do, your bound to think about it alot. its totally normal, i will not only think about it i will tell anyone who wants to listen about it too! :-)

First of all congratulations for the birth of your boy!
I agree with the others, this all sounds completely normal. In the first few weeks after the birth of my boy, I would constantly go over the birth in my mind- again and again and AGAIN. I do think, looking back to it, that it helped me a lot to think it through & digest what happened. The ups & downs also sound normal to me, after all how can you feel completely ok when you're so tired, your hormones are all over the place, you have so much to do, and as it seems little support. I would underine the importance of finding some support, if at all possible. Could you hire a post-natal doula, for maybe a few hours a week? We did that & it made all the difference. You could find a trainee-they are much more affordable.