expecting 2nd baby, 5.5weeks away amd feeling tightening, HELP!

[kutilputil]

can anyone please explain what is happening to me. my first baby was induced as my waters broke but had no contractions so dont know what normal contractions feel like but this is weird. i am 5.5wks away from due date (13th dec) and since yesterday around 11am i have been feeling tightening pain accross my belly and on my back every five to six minutes lasting for about 30 seconds, also am feeling sharp lightening striking pain way down below and i cannot make any sense of it. i really dont want to contact my local labour ward as there are animals there for midwives and all they would say to me is come in and we will check you.i'd rather sit at home and bear it cos i can and see what happens. i dont remember feeling like this with son1.i am getting more discharge than normal and its quiet thick and cream/yellowish in colour but not red, i know thats serious. pls help, any advice is appreciated.

give me one reason why this cannot be treated as bh's?

It's OK. I do understand I was in and out when I was pregnant (BH's mostly , no MN then). I was always in the same room, it had the same blood stain on the wall for 4 weeks.

You do have to go though. If they are contractions then your little one could be getting tired. It's too much of a risk to take. You do have to phone them, just tell them about the pain down below as this shouldn't be there. They will monitor your baby. They just want to be able to give you a healthy baby to take home. They want to work with you as you want this too but you need to let them do their job. They are not incompetent, I've worked for the NHS for nearly years. It's the patients that come first. Your friend had a bad experience because things didn't go as she had planned. She's probably forgoten about the positive aspects. Is there someone who can go with you? Can someone come and sit with your child at home?

no phantom, they are cows at the royal london, they are cold, rude and very unfriendly and never have a moment to care, really care, i cried my eyes out all night with my son and not one bitch came and said you okay...when one eventually came she man handled my breasts and my son just to show me how to feed him...i HATE that place...not one decent midwife!

i'm actually getting quiet worked up, you can tell by my bad language and so before i say something really out of order i should stop and go bed....pls pray for me and baby...i really wanted this time to be slightly plain sailing and already things are going pear shaped...i have decided a long time ago that this is the last time i will get pregnant, i was so traumatised with son1, the only reason i got pregnant is to give hima companion....i just feel like crying myself to sleep...

Ok. To be blunt (sorry) which would you rather have? Crap care and a healthy baby or the opposite?

Just get them to check you and get out of there. Don't take a risk here beause it's really, really not worth it. I've seen children die from really silly things. Don't take a chance.

Praying for you, sweetheart .

I hope you have a good experience of this birth.

There are things you can control and there are times when you have to go with the flow. This is life. Even the best plan needs to change sometimes. You have to be strong.You can do this!

But, as Phantom says, please do seek the care you need. You might dread inadequate care, but a healthy baby is worth any amount of rubbish.

i know what you mean phantom and obviously i dont want to put myself or baby at any risk, but the bloody hormones and emotions run riot in me and i feel so not in control, and when i am not incontrol i am all over the place....and i hate being alone at night, its a phobia i have had since i was a child....life is so cruel sometimes.

thanks wessexgirl.

thankyou ladies for all your heartfelt advice and any more advice is much appreciated, i will go bed now and maybe i will get this checked out if it continues tommorow,maybe not.will let you know what happens tommorow...pls keep the prayers comming this way...need all the help i can get.thankyou

It's OK. You are in control but you need to have some flexibility with life. It's not possible to plan everything, as much as we would like. You can bitch about the midwives and the care they give after they have checked you over because you know your baby is far more important than shit staff. Life's OK. You have to adapt sometimes.

Phone them up. The quicker you do this the quicker you can get home and the quicker you know everything's OK.

Is there an update?

kutil, how are you now?

hi, the update is i am seeing my gp later on this afternoon to get myself checked out.i'd rather that than the hospital. i am also getting a referal for physio as i may have pelvic gyrdle pains as well. the tightening has eased a little and isn't so regular but its still there, i am just taking it easy for now.

will just say, not saying this is what you have, but all through this pg (am 37+ weeks) and my first pg i was told i was just having BH and i always said no they dont feel how people describe it etc and a few weeks ago i saw a diff MW and she felt my bump when i happened to have one supposed BH and she told me i have an irritable womb. I wish id known this before. Have actually been in hosp 3 times with regulary contractions but thankfully have stopped. I find having a full bladder, doing too much, not resting make them worse... Hope all goes ok

ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh....there could be a link mad4mybaby, as i have been very active lately running aroun and not resting even at night, i also find when i have a full bladder the pain is worse....but i have never heard of irritable womb...sounds funny!

no neither had i! MW doesnt seem worried about it although i DO need to be careful. Dh and i caught a sick bug the other week and i was only sick once and i started having contractions every 10 mins so ended up being moniterd etc but it died down eventually with rest

I too have an irritable uterus. It can be a cause and agree with all of the things that trigger Mad4's and would like to add farts, baby movement and MW prodding to the list of triggers.

Whilst an irritable uterus is not a problem in itself it can make it slightly more likely to go into prem labour as every contraction releases hormones into the bloodstream and if you have too many contractions in a short period of time the blood hormone conentration can reach a critical level and kick off proper labour.

So yes it may be an irritable uterus...but that doesn't mean that you shouldn't get checked and it still doesn't mean more than 4 contractions in an hour shouldn't be checked.

Inicently it is "likely" that my irritable uterus was a significant factor in my premature labour.

well i did go and see gp and she reassured me that all is okay, thats its bh's and even if i were to go into prem labour its not a high risk....hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!
anyway, contractions die down then come up again and so i am just sitting tight and resting as much as i can. i am still scared out of my brain though about the actual labour...when it does actually happen.goodnight you guys, maybe chat tommorow.