Hello hon, sorry I didn't see your message until now.
I think in deciding if you want a Fenton's, first you need to have a GP you can trust to advise on whether it is something you need. I looked online at my surgery and luckily found a doc who specialised in Psychiatry, obstetrics and gynaecology, as well as minor surgery etc. She couldn't have been more ideally suited really. But if you can't find someone like that then a sympathetic ear and taking you seriously is a good start.
Then you decide if your current state is one you can't bear. It's an op under general, you have to take it easy for a few weeks and it is sore, but you have painkillers and do your physio and you could be feeling close to normal before you know it - we're talking weeks or months compared to the two whole years you've out up with so far.
There are different things you can do before resorting to Fenton's, but sadly, no one takes the time to explain:
There are dilators you can try for stretching out the scar tissue, which you are more in control of than when having sex. (when you have a Fenton's they don't really "remove" the scar tissue, they divide it) so might be a way to help.
Scar tissue can be tackled at any time, it's never to late to have a go yourself. I would use an oil rich in Vitamin E like Wheatgerm, and firm rubbing with your fingers daily to de-sensitise the area and help stretch it out too. If it's too sore at first then you can get a gel to numb the area, see that thread - I forget it's name now!
There are also cortisone injections which dissolve scar tissue to an extent. A maximum of three is recommended as after that they can thin the skin as it is steroids.
It was after having two these I went for the Fentons op as my GP decided the hospital weren't doing enough. She really was the key to everything changing so seek out a doc to be on your side, and who knows what they are dealing with / can examine and speak to the hospital with some authority etc.
Keep me posted or ask anything else you need.
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