I'm currently 35+2 and had my routing AN appointment at the hopsital clinic so that I could discuss my previous wish for a VBA2C.
I didn't see the consultant, however the registrar that I spoke to seemed very good and helpful and was respecting all my wishes until the subject of CFM came up . I had been previously told at my 12 week appointment that I would have to have CFM but in the meantime I have researched this to the nth degree and can find no reason for the CFM other than to make their job a little easier. However, I presented her with some of the research to demonstrate, and was hoping for a frank and open discussion about it, but it was like the shutters came down. The main bargaining chip from her pov was the fact that I am trying for a VBA2C which she admitted the hospital doesn't see a lot of as most women who have had two sections opt for an elective.
She suggested that I could have a scalp clip attached to the baby rather than the belt which would give me a greater range of mobility (one of my concerns), however, I'm not sure I'm happy about the fact that this will mean possible ARM if they haven;t broken naturally by the time I get to hospital.
she also scared us by saying we needed to get into hospital as soon as possible as if my scar were to rupture at home then it wuld be unlikely that the baby would survive and I was putting my own health at risk. She also talked about risks of stillbirth, although was open to me opting for expectant management after 41 weeks whereas before I was told baby had to be out naturally by 41 weeks or it was under the knife for me.
My doula is keen for me to refuse the CFM and although she isn't pressurising me, I'm feeling a bit torn as to what is the best thing to do.
On one hand, I know these interventions are likely to increase the chances of the need for a repeat section, but on the other hand I don't want to do anything to jeopardise the health of my baby or me as I know I would never be able to forgive myself.
And although i know that there is a school of thought that says it doesn't matter how the baby comes into the world privded mum and baby are healthy and well; I need to at least try for a natural delivery to put to bed the ghosts of my pretty traumatic birth with DS. I feel at the minute that it's their way or the highway and that if these interventions are going to cause me to need a CS anyway, why not just get booked in and avoid all the unneccesary pain .
Thanks for bearing with this....I needed a bit of a vent