Why am I so apprehensive about this birth, it's no.4 after all. You'd think I'd get better at this lark.

[sorkycake]

Filled with self doubt, convinced I'll end up with a c-section (no reason at all)
Worried about not coping with the pain or speed of delivery etc etc.

How many weeks are you sorky? My number 4 is just over a year old. You'll be fine, you know you will

No, my (quite logical) reasoning with DC4 was that everything had gone well with the first three and my luck couldn't possibly hold - I sort of felt I was pushing things by expecting it all to be fine. I got into a terrible state and then of course it was a piece of cake. The pregnancy itself was terrible, but the birth quick, no stitches and only G&A.
Good luck - you will fine

oh god sorky.

you're re-living my PG with ds4.
it was so hard to try and stay sane about every single microscopic PG/Birth thing.

I was insane by the time I actually gave birth.

But he was a perfect little bundle and as soon as teh birth was over it was plain sailing.

DS4 being a toddler now is a little testing though

I do keep trying to reassure myself that it's irrational, I really do and I hear everyone say you'll be fine, but there's a growing gnawing doubt that I will be.
It's got so bad that I stunned my midwife by suggesting that I might not be giving birth at home, that I think I'll end up in hospital!
I haven't even booked my pool because I don't want to fork out the money for something I don't think I'll be using.

I was somewhat reassured recently at my 21week scan (I'm 23 weeks I think) when the sonographer said baby appeared very healthy with good neuro signs. BUT that security lasted a couple of days and then I start with the craziness again.

I keep wondering if I should say something to the m/w, will she just think I'm overreacting? is it a self fulfilling prophecy?

I could hyperventilate at the thought of giving birth to this baby. what the hell is going on?

When I was scared about no3 my lovely midwife said; "All women get scared. You're going to experience pain, after all", and somehow it made sense and made me feel much better.

You're over-analysing, maybe?

Try a bit of cognitive therapy. When you get those fears, steer your thoughts away to something completely different.

Hmm, I've done slightly apprehensive with the first two and was rather comfortable with the thought of the 3rd birth, but this one has me freaked.

I can't understand why. Maybe I'll mention it to her when I next see her......or actually where's lulumama?

thanks for the replies ladies.

Yes. Talk to your midwife.

sorky i was the same

have got worse and worse at the whole thing and was beside myself this time

no advice really

talk to midwives mine were great

Sorky, if i was ever PG again I'd never let myself get into the mess I found myself again.

I would talk to everyone I possibly could because it was keeping it all inside ,y head that made me go mad.

In hind sight I think it eventually developed into some form of ante natal depression. I really struggled with the whole birth process because of what was going on inside my mind, I don't think there was a rational thought in there !!!
I totally believed that if I mentioned any of it it would make the worst happen. I couldn't even type the words on here and only skimmed teh surface of what was going on when I posted asking for advice.

Anyway, before I waffle any more, I can't say enough how important it is(IMO and IME) that you do talk someone about it. I wouldn't want anyone to have the sort of birth I had with Ds4 when it could be aviodable.

Take care and talk to MW soon.

xxx

(BTW I'll nver be PG again. I'd rather cut my arms off[groin])