Tell me about transition

[MamaG]

please

Also you kind of "know" that you are on the brink of needing to push the baby out, but it all seems so surreal and unbelievable that you "know" you are probably wrong!

For me it must have been the point where I suddenly declared I was getting out of the bath. and did so, completely naked and tried to walk accross the hall back to my room - naked

DP threw my dressing gown on me (thank goodness). My head just suddenly realised that I had to get up and about, I don't really remember too much but I do know I suddenly had one clear thought - that it was time to stop messing about and get DD out.

I got into the room, got on the platform bed thing, grabbed a bean bag and declared I was going to start pushing.

She arrived 45 mins later

I did not realise it was transition though. at the time it was just a change in mind set.

uncontrollable shaking both times with full on chattering teeth. i knowingly informed the MW i was in transition when it happened with DS2 (i was right though as he was out about 8 minutes later!)

is that where even an epidural isn't much help, but you don't care because you're 10 cm dilated?

I wonder if I had a few periods of transition?!

With DD at one point I vomited

Later on I insisted on brushing my teeth before I began to push

With DS I had the shaking/chattering teeth thing and then the vile evil-bitch bit - like lollipop I sadi to MW "I NEED to push", she said "well push then!" me "I can't I ahven't had my epidural yet", MW "no time for that!"

me SHRIEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEK

I think I missed it

Was it the bit where I decided I needed a poo and scared the mws by going to the loo to do so, depsite reassuring them that I was fine and I just, well, wanted a poo.

or the bit in the pool an hour later where I said 'You know that G&A you mentioned earlier...'?

or the subsequent mooing?

the mooing

ah right

that was my most calm and intelligible / least sweary bit

(between contractions, obv - the mooing was not intelligible)

Technically it's the bit when you are doing the last bit of dilation (around 8-10cm). So probably whichever comes last out of all those things.

For me lollipop summed it up best: "you know that there is NO WAY you can go through with the birth".

Didnt have transition with DD.
But with DS I remember feeling I was underwater declaring to the room that I didnt want to do this anymore then a violent urge to push 7mins he was handed to me.

With DS1 I was too spaced out on pethedine and gas and air to know what was going on full stop! But with DS2 I was def aware of a very spacey period, when I felt really quite calm and really went "into myself" just before it was time to start pushing.

It was the bit when I looked over and thought 'That midwife cannot be sitting all the way over there doing her paperwork. Can she? Oh my God, she is. She's doing her paperwork.'

I don't think I 'did' transition on either of my births. Just went from not-pushing to pushing. No puking or shivering or screeching or existential depair at all.

Oh reading this thread makes me very and . When I was in labour with ds2 (ds1 had been born by cs quite early on in labour) I was going for a VBAC and reached a point where I was shouting 'HELP ME!' and was just thinking 'fuck it I'm going to push', which I now know was transition, but the arse of a registrar had decided I wasn't dilated enough and hoiked me off to theatre for another cs. They stuck the spinal in (with the anaesthetist shouting at me to keep still - I nearly smacked him in the gob, but just did a poo instead) then looked and said, Oh, you're fully dilated, can you push.

No of course I bloody can't I can't feel anything from my hips down.

So I had another CS.

Anyway. DS2 is lovely lovely and all is well so will not dwell on it.

Its the bit were the hurtyness hurts alot and you dont get much break but know that it also means your about 10cm and the only way to stop it all is to hurt more and push the little fecker out.....

I don't remember it with DS1, but I had a very effective epidural. With DS2 however, I remember suddenly feeling very out of control & like I couldn't cope with another second of pain & they couldn't get me pain relief quick enough. I then started crying because I felt nobody was helping me, and I remember the midwife telling me to try to stay with it, to which I yelled "this is as with it as I can be!"
She then asked if I wanted to push, and I said "No I think I am going to poo!"
I guess that was transition, but I didn't realise at the time.

oi pink are you still online?

Yep.

Panic, terror, despair.
Trying to leave (the room, the whole birthing process, one's husband...)
The phrase 'I can't do this'.

Good ole' transition.