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Was your c section dignified?

101 replies

Sept2024 · 19/03/2026 14:25

Pregnant second time round and considering how I want to give birth. Anyone who has had a planned or emergency c section I would love to know tour experience. One question I feel like I can’t get the answer to anywhere is- is the whole theatre milling around in view when you get your catheter put in?
Rhe midwife told me “no one will be watching for the sake of it” but I still left with a question mark. In your experience, did you get covered while that was happening and did the theatre team stay at the other side of the room to protect your dignity or did they not bother?

thank you

OP posts:
UncharteredWaters · 19/03/2026 14:29

They couldn’t care less, they’re all doing their bit to get ready.
so no they don’t all go and congregate in a huddle elsewhere but they really aren’t watching either. It’s just a proceedure to them and not the big thing you have built it into in your mind.

Indianajet · 19/03/2026 14:30

I don't know anything about cesarean sections as my children were all vaginally births, one by forceps, a d there was nothing dignified about any of it!
I should think the only people looking while you were having a catheter put in would be the people doing it.

DysmalRadius · 19/03/2026 14:31

It's the same as when you have a cannula put in - there are other people in the room but they aren't all gathered around.

stackhead · 19/03/2026 14:31

I was covered with a sheet until the surgery started - I only know because they kept lifting it up to spray with the cold spray to test numbness- but when the sheet went up (the upright one that they use during surgery so you can't see what's happening) I couldn't tell you what was happening down there and honestly couldn't have cared less - but at no point did it feel undignified or in any way exposing.

Oh the surgeons stayed in a little annex bit until I was numbed and then came over to start the surgery, they didn't hover near me whilst I was being numbed and prepped.

OperationalSupport · 19/03/2026 14:37

They waited until after the spinal block to put it in (planned c-section). I don’t recall exactly as it was 6 years ago, but I did always have someone telling me what was happening, once I was numbed and on the table I think it was the anaesthetist. There were a few people in the room, but all getting on with their jobs, and the midwife has explained a bit about who would be in there beforehand.

At no point did I feel undignified, i was nervous but it felt routine and calm (& chilly - operating theatres are cold!). It was all surprisingly quick to get baby out, but then stitching up took a while.

StormyLandCloud · 19/03/2026 14:37

In all honesty, any of the clinical team will not be gawping at your vagina, unless they’re working on trying to help you or your baby and it’s needed. They’ve all got jobs to do so will be busy

Mushroo · 19/03/2026 14:56

I honestly don’t even remember it being put in so it can’t have been that bad!

AnonSugar · 19/03/2026 14:59

I had an emergency c-section. No idea what they did and didn’t do. It was calm, everyone was doing their bit.

NerrSnerr · 19/03/2026 14:59

I have had two c sections and I couldn’t even tell you when they put the catheter in. They were just getting on with it all behind the drape.

I did have a pretty big PPH after my first so all dignity went out the window then with doctors with there hands inside me, the curtains being opened so they could bring in equipment, weigh the swabs, sheets etc quickly. They did an amazing job so can’t fault them.

MrsLizzieDarcy · 19/03/2026 15:03

1st one was an emergency and I already had a catheter in. 2nd was elective and I was taken to a prep room first just off the theatre where they did the spinal and put the catheter in. I was then wheeled into theatre and slid onto the operating table.

Hotdoughnut · 19/03/2026 15:03

I've had one emergency and two planned sections. Fantastic, calm experiences for all three. I wouldn't worry about dignity, nobody is looking/cares and you won't care either. I'm surprised you're worrying about dignity after a natural birth to be honest!

paintedpanda · 19/03/2026 15:03

I work in theatres and in ours at least only necessary staff are in theatre when the catheter is being placed and we’re too busy to look! We always make sure our patients dignity is kept!
I felt like my dignity was intact after my section but I can understand why you’d be concerned

BestZebbie · 19/03/2026 15:06

Sept2024 · 19/03/2026 14:25

Pregnant second time round and considering how I want to give birth. Anyone who has had a planned or emergency c section I would love to know tour experience. One question I feel like I can’t get the answer to anywhere is- is the whole theatre milling around in view when you get your catheter put in?
Rhe midwife told me “no one will be watching for the sake of it” but I still left with a question mark. In your experience, did you get covered while that was happening and did the theatre team stay at the other side of the room to protect your dignity or did they not bother?

thank you

Everything got a lot more dignified for me once we'd stopped faffing about trying to 'give me the opportunity' to die in childbirth (naked, screaming and probably pooing) and got the C-section started and the pain blockers in....

Dellmouse · 19/03/2026 15:06

Emergency C Section - nothing was dignified. But you don’t really care at the time or after.

Rooroobear · 19/03/2026 15:10

They don’t crowd round. They all have their jobs to do so they are all milling around. I mean it’s as dignified as it can be when your legs are up and open for all to see. It is what it is. I couldn’t care about things like that because it has to be done and they’ve see it a million times before (but I can totally see why people feel how they do) try not to be too worried. They really do try and make you feel as comfortable as possible

Whyischocolatebadforyou · 19/03/2026 15:11

I had a planned c section as it was medically necessary. My DD started her determined approach to life early and was transverse and not for shifting.

I didn't feel the catheter being put in. I found it fine. You get into a gown and sit on a bed to be taken to theatre. No flashing your bum at everyone. Once the epidural takes effect you lie down and they put a screen up. I just chatted to DH for a min or two before they had DD out and showed her to me. She had to go for oxygen for a few minutes and I do remember making my husband stand where he could see her and tell me everything happening. It was only a short time before I was cuddling her though.

I didn't feel any loss of dignity.

Fertility treatment on the other hand. That one is really undignified.

Whyischocolatebadforyou · 19/03/2026 15:12

Feel free to message if you have any questions. I don't mind sharing my experience.

canuckup · 19/03/2026 15:18

I seem the remember the catheter was put in afterwards

Mysteise · 19/03/2026 15:19

Hello OP, I just wanted to say I completely understand why you’re feeling worried those concerns about dignity are so valid. I spent a lot of time feeling anxious about the same thing before my own C-section. In the end, I realised I had built it up much more in my head than it actually felt in reality.

If you’re having an elective, everything is very calm and organised. You’ll be given a gown and stockings, and your birth partner will get changed too. The theatre team are usually very kind and will introduce themselves, which really helps ease the nerves. The room can feel a bit cold, but they’ll do their best to keep you comfortable.

You’ll have the spinal anaesthetic while sitting up, and once it’s in, you’ll lie down and they’ll place a screen across your midsection so you can’t see anything. Your birth partner will be right beside you, usually holding your hand and supporting you the whole time.

You’ll have an IV in your hand for fluids and medications, and your blood pressure will be monitored throughout. Once you’re numb, a catheter is placed but you genuinely won’t feel this because of the anaesthetic, and it’s done very discreetly by one member of the team.

From that point on, the focus really shifts to welcoming your baby. The atmosphere is usually calm, and the team will talk you through what’s happening while they deliver your baby. It can actually feel quite special and emotional.

I know it’s easier said than done, but try not to let the worries about dignity take over! The team are very used to supporting people through this, and they really do their best to respect your privacy at every step.

Wishing you all the best you’ll be in safe hands x

Easterbunnyishotandcross · 19/03/2026 15:21

When I had ds by emcs the team were too busy anticipating the arrival of my blood clots to care about looking elsewhere...

AppropriateAdult · 19/03/2026 15:21

I’ve been on the other end as the person putting the catheter in; it’s a very quick procedure on women, and you’ll only be uncovered to the degree that’s needed to do it hygienically. There will be other people in the room but they’ll all be busy with their own aspect of prep for the procedure, nobody will be watching.

Thunderdcc · 19/03/2026 15:23

I found it very weird I had to walk to theatre, I was expecting to be wheeled there like a princess 😅

But yeah noone is just stood about watching they are all prepping their various stuff, choosing the music and if they really don't have anything to do they'll chat to each other.

RedRock41 · 19/03/2026 15:26

You should read This is Going to Hurt by Adam Kay…gives good idea of what things are like their side… the staff be too busy trying to ensure you and your baby are safe and get through ok (with many other patients also to look after over the shift) to give your catheter much thought.

Dellmouse · 19/03/2026 15:27

RedRock41 · 19/03/2026 15:26

You should read This is Going to Hurt by Adam Kay…gives good idea of what things are like their side… the staff be too busy trying to ensure you and your baby are safe and get through ok (with many other patients also to look after over the shift) to give your catheter much thought.

Not a book I’d recommend to someone having a baby, especially if they are already nervous/ anxious.

SalmonOnFinnCrisp · 19/03/2026 15:28

Honestly I felt i was treated very well/ respectfully.
Incredibly calm and well organised

I didnt even know when the catheter went it either time due to anesthesia.

Anesthetician was amazing both times kind and chatty.

The maternity ward was diabolical. It was like some of the midwives were actively trying to make it harder / more uncomfortable/ more difficult.
They were verbally rude and belittling.

Some were angels but majority were dicks.