Home Births

[kayzisexpecting]

I have decided I would like a home birth. I am due to have a talk with DH about it this evening.

Please can you give me any facts, figures, information that I can tell him as I feel he won't be happy about it.

Not for a nasty reason but thinking of mine and DC2's safety. I hated the hospital last time and would really like to try and have this one at home.

Thanks

Home births are a fabulous idea!

Both of mine were home water births and both were really positive experiences.

I think the website is homebirth.org for facts & figures but I do know that interventions are lower for home births as you are in your own environment, less stress etc.

I was told that I would not be able to have an epidural if I wanted one because that can only be done in hospital. Gas & air and tens machines etc. can still all be used at home.

Go for it - you will be pleased you did!!!!

L xxxxxxxxxx

I didn't have an epidural with DS and I'm not likely to want one with this one. I am looking at getting a pool too.

I'm only 13 weeks but really want to gather as much info as possible.

I am booked in for one for one for number 3 and have to say the service and care I am getting is a damn site better than if I was going into hospital.

One of the magazines this week has published an article on home births facts and figures very positive.

My husband was really anti but has been persuaded by the evidence in favour.

Good Luck will se if I can find mag for info

He isn't very keen. He said he'd rather I was in hospital so that if something goes wrong I am already there. But he said he'd think about it.

Show him the homebirth.org website, they cover probably any question anyone would have about the safety and plus points of homebirths. In nearly every instance homebirths are safer than a hospital birth, and the statistics back that up.

Keep on talking to him about it, remember this is your birth. I know it is important that he is happy with what is going on, but he's not the one who has to labour and give birth.

Find out exactly why he is against it, then find the counter arguement on the homebirth website, and show him the information.

Good luck xx

I did tell him about home births being safer. I'm going to get him to read the website.

Hi Kazi, I'm having my first baby in september and if all is well, medically, I will be hoping for a home birth with birthing pool. As Olivetree said, homebirth.org are good for facts and figures. Personally I would feel much more relaxed in my own home, my only concern is how I might cope with the pain if I'm finding it too much as I don't have any previous experience to compare it too but I've got a wonderfully supportive partner, midwife and doula and I have been reading up on Ina Mays guide to Childbirth which has been very helpful. Maybe you can get your partner to read it too? Good luck and hope you get what you want. With regards to pain relief, the only option unavailable to you when birthing at home is the epidural.

Try reminding him that your safety and your baby's are the responsibility of the midwife, not him.... and that at home, you'll have your very own midwife's undivided attention! Maybe even two, all to yourself

That is better care than most hospitals can commit to and possibly one of the many (many, many!) reasons that homebirth's are safer and less stressful

If he continues to wobble, maybe a second birth partner would help? For one of my homebirths, I had two friends and my xP present, they all supported each other and together and individually, they provided fantastic support to me.

My DH was also against homebirth for safety reasons (what happens if you haemorrage, cant cope with the pain, baby gets stuck all sorts of concerns)

MW booked a double appointment with him and answered all his questions (poor woman!)and was very honest with him, he still didnt like it but saw how important it was to me and we agreed if there was the slightest doubt of the MW (or me) at time of labour I would transfer. Had 2 home birth (both in our own bath) and IF we were to have a DC3 he would still wants me to go to the hospital!! Think he is not in control which frightens him but he forgets I know my body (plus we live a 10 minute walk from the JR).

Good luck!