I gave birth on wednesday with a 3a tear. I was given a stool softener to take every day and took it yesterday and immediately after i had a normal solid poo with full control and not uncomfortable, but today I had a very loose bowel movement and couldn’t get to the toilet in time. It was hard to clean as im struggling with standing or sitting for too long and finding bits even after shower + peri bottle. I’m hoping this was just caused by the stool softener on top of not having much food the last few days. I’ve since been having some tight cramps which I did also have last night so I’m worried it’s going to happen again.
I have to travel to see the midwife tomorrow for a stitch check and I’m anxious about going, especially in case there’s still residue. I’m also struggling a bit emotionally I can’t move much, sit or walk comfortably, and I feel like I’ve barely been able to hold my baby. My partner is doing nearly everything and although I’m grateful, it’s upsetting watching everyone else bond while I feel stuck and recovering.
Has anyone else been through similar with a 3a tear? Did things improve once stools firmed up and swelling went down? Any reassurance or experiences would really help.