26 weeks preg had had 2cs seriouslyt contemplating a vbacs and in a quandry.....have you had a vba2c's or more?

[mumofdjandbabies]

am lacking serious confidence but would love a vaginal birth....

on the other hand my sections have been fine really.....

in a major quandry! (as this will be my last baby)

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hi mumof. I've also had 2 em sections and am 34 weeks preg. I have had a lot of soul searching to get my head around having an elective section this time. I have been going to yoga and am surrounded by first timers who plan to have a natural normal birth. and some do. BUT, I know if I tried to have a VBA2C, I would NOT have the birth I want. I would be limited by hospital and obstetric rules and risk management and probably end up having another emergency section, with the accompanying loss of control and disappointment in myself. and recovering from an instrumental forceps del and episiotomy may be just as bad as from an elective section.

This has come to a head for me this week, but I now have the next 5 weeks to prepare for an elective section.

I know people do go on to have a VBA2C, but I don't think I'm going to be one of them!

hope this helps, good luck with whatever you decide, Cass.

aw thanks cass
you sound very much in the same process as me
I am so pleased you have made a decision
thats most of it isnt it?
I still havent decided......

What were the reasons for your 2 em cs's? I think this would be a big part of any decision around future births for me. The consultant doing my em cs basically said I would never have delivered DS. He was only 8 and half pounds, but she said I was too narrow. I think I would go for an elective for any others because I my heart I know I would have another long labour and then an em cs anyway. So a managed cs seems like the best compromise.

first time

failure to progress as had undiagnosed bladder retention blocking baby, got knackered and was too wrecked to birth

sec time I had ante natal depression due to trauma of first birth

this time am fine and dandy hence wanting to try a normal birth of supported?

I had a VBA3C and I think if I could that, just about anyone else could too. But one of the most important things is motivation and positive thinking. If you don't believe you can do it you're already setting yourself up for failure. And no one has to be limited by hospital protocols - you can insist on doing it your own way and they have to support you (although how nice they are about it can be another matter) or you can bypass the system altogether and plan a home birth.

I am living proof though that you CAN have a good hospital birth though - it took me a long time to get the support I needed but on the day they couldn't have been more helpful. It's one of those times when we have to put our inbred politeness and willingness to please doctors aside and insist on doing it our way. If you don't think you can do that, then either book the homebirth with an IM or plan the elective CS.

I had one emergency CS and 2 electives - one of my ELCS was a disaster from start to finish and we ended up suing them but the other was ok - it can be a pleasant experience but there is no comparison to the feeling of pushing your baby out into the world yourself and then being up and about and able to drive the same day. It changed my life.

did you get in touch with the doulas i emaild you about?

i would say, if you thikn there is going to be a point in the future where you would seriously regret not trying, and would deeply regret it, then go for it.

you can labour on your terms if you know how.

and have the right support

it sounds like you could have birthed vaginally, given the right support and that there is not a medical complication that could recur

the biggest boost to a succesful VBAC is confidence in your body;s ability

something as simple as being mobile and upright can massively help

Go for it!

I had 2 sections then 4 vbacs without any probs at all. The vbacs were amazing and REALLY worth a go if there's no medical reason for having another section

Yes, get a doula, they are so fab and will boost your confidence more than you could ever begin to imagine.

hi thanks all
such encouraging words thanks

I actually met up with klaw yesterday had good chin wag!

hubby not keen atall to try/ hire doula but I know I would regret not trying.........