Elective section date

[Gruffalo21]

Did you let many people know your elective section date? Aside from people who will be looking after our 5 year old, I'm reluctant to tell many others including some close family members. The first birth turned into a free for all of communication, constant asking and texting what was going on, breaking news before we had the chance.
I've already said it's no one else business in particular (those who like to turn it into their narrative) and would like it to be more about a (hopefully) calm birth where me and hubby can enjoy the experience.

Just don't tell anyone else. Send out a happy message with pic or whatever afterwards, or a few days afterwards. Totally your choice and would reduce your stress levels!

No. I remember one of my friends really pushing boundaries around this which was really irritating. The way I see it, I wouldn’t announce when I was going into labour so I’m not going to announce my c-section date either. People can be patient and wait to hear from me.

Also my c section date changed 3 times!

I wouldn’t tell anyone.

If anyone really pushes and you don’t feel like you can bluntly tell them to back off (like a pushy close relative or something) either tell them a date a week later, or be vague and say “it’ll be around X date but because they don’t know how many women will be having emergency c sections they won’t confirm fully until the day” or something.

Mine is in a few weeks and I’m not telling anyone apart from my parents who are looking after our DC

i didn’t tell anyone the day I was induced with my first, or my c section with my second (apart for my parents for childcare). And it will be the same third time! I like a bit more privacy x

Yes, I did - purely because it stopped everyone from constantly asking, "Have you had the baby yet?" etc.

That's far more annoying in my opinion!

Maybe just give them a fake date.... give them a date a full week after you're actually having it, that way you get a nice week of peace with your newborn before the "Good luck" texts or the "How did it go?" texts start arriving....

My mum knew as she was travelling to me.
A good friend knew because she had an early miscarriage that weekend and I didn’t want her getting a shock text.
Otherwise I would have told no one.

I told anyone who was interested enough to ask. It’s quite nice when people are excited for you. No one hassled me on the day, maybe because I’m lucky with my friends/family or maybe because I was first on the list so babies were born about 7.30am so they hadn’t had chance yet! Then sent round a picture once they’d arrived and people said congratulations and that was that… IDK I never saw it as a massive deal. A few of my mates were induced and they told everyone too, for one in particular it was a lengthy process so she was messaging all the updates to pass the time, I wouldn’t have messaged first though.

Told my parents and sisters otherwise no. I wanted time to contact people on my time/terms rather then being bombarded with well meaning wishes.

No. It’s stressful enough without other people going on about it, or texting you on the day. Only my in-laws and my dad knew and they never said a word until we contacted them after it was over, they knew I had rough pregnancies and rough section experiences and so were really considerate about them (I’ve had 3 electives).

Just tell people afterwards.

I told close family (parents, in-laws and SIL). I also ended up telling a couple of close friends a couple of days before, I hadn’t intended to but it just felt right at the time and they were incredibly supportive.

I also hadn’t known my date until quite late in the day which probably influenced how/when I told people. It was only 10 days before I had DC2 that it was decided that c-section was the best option so I didn’t have long to ruminate on it (probably for the best in my case!).