erm being vocal in labour!

[maybemaybee]

With my first i spent most of my labour yelling, you could say it was my way of not dealing with the pain. But i also remember the student midwife being quite horrible to me and telling me to shut up and that if i put as much effort into pushing as i did yelling the baby would be here a lot quicker! the labour as a perfect 10 hours, silly mare.

Anyhow, with my second i had an epidural and spent my labour watching eastenders and the grandprix.

so i am preg with my third now and considering not having an epidural, in fact going for a home birth, but, what happens if i am yelling my head off again! not only will i scare my toddlers to death i may scare my elderly next door neighbours too! Silly isnt it but i cant get it out of my head.

your MW was wrong to tell you to shut up! for a lot of women, being vocal is a great way to deal with the pain. however, screaming is not good, especially at the second stage. it hurts your throat! roaring, mooing and bellowing, low , deep sounds are good.

explain to your toddler re the noise, warn the neighbours and book your home birth !

You make the sounds that you need to darling and anyone that tells you otherwise... send them to me!

I roared when I had DS If anybody had told me to shut up, I'd have kicked htem in the nose!

I actually kicked a student MW when having DD as I was furious with her for something but couldn't actually speak

I am with you on this one - I too was a shouting screaming mess - it was sooo painful and the MW was a cow - she shouted at me and told me to push (without checking me and I had got stuck at 5cm). She practically jumped up and down with glee when I asked for an epideural as it meant she could punt me off to the medical suite.
I am due in 7 weeks now on number 2 and would like my longed for waterbirth but am scared about yelling again too. Apparently I scared everyone else on the suite last time

If I were you I would go with the HB but be prepared to go to hospital if you need to. Can you get someone to look after the kids when in labour?

yeah, and when mars has finished with them, send 'em my way !

you might find that in a home birth situation, your ability to deal with the pain is better anyway, and you are less noisy.

labours don;t always follow the same pattern.

Water is a wonderful pain reliever. You may not shout at all. Don't fret it darling. You have your lovely waterbirth and make as much noise as you need to.

I made some really good camel type noises as DS1 descended, you know that bit after transition when things really kick off. I'd be speaking quite coherently to DH and then pause to go "uuuunnngggghhhhh" and then carry on.

I was also told to put the effort into pushing rather than make a noise, first time around. I told her to get stuffed . It really helped me making that noise.

see i dont think i wa syelling as much for the pain as for a way of coping with the contractions, i cant really remember thanks to the pethidine, but whilst my proper midwife was lovely the mature student one was horrible. She was sulking because she stayed on when her shift ended at 10pm because i was going to have the baby before midnight apparently! as it was it was 3 in the morning.

The point of a home birth was so i wouldnt have to move my toddlers about really but at the same time i dont want to terrify them either.

My new midife is very pro homebirthing and seems a good sort, i will speak to her about it to.

I mooed apparently. But my doula would have thumped anyone who tried to interfere with me, so that wasn't a worry.

I wanted a waterbirth in a mwled birthing centre, but DS had to be awkward and arrive at 35 weeks, so had to have a monitored hospital birth. I did as I liked and didn't even think of the mws and other people on the ward.

I had a HB with my last and I thought about the noise levels it would cause

Not only do we have 2 ladies with special needs and their carers next door to us but we also have the village pub

When the contractions came thick and fast, I wouldnt have given a shit if the Queen was stood watching me.

You do what you need to do.

The midwife told me to stop making noises when I was about t give birth to dd2. I had no idea i was even making any noises, so excrutiating was the pain. SIlly mare. I felt like yelling back, 'the potential pain in my throat pales into insignificance compared to the current pain in my nether regions'.

that was my first labour in a midwife led birthng centre, in the water, but at 9 cms (i got that far on gas air and water so i think i could do a hb all going well) i went a bit loopy and then next three hours were probably horribly noisy, not that i cared at the time but after ward there was distressed ++++ written all over my notes and the student midwifes comments, i felt a bit of a tit to be honest.

I hardly made any noise at all with my first two but with ds2 I felt so out of control as it went so fast. I was begging them to help me, begging them to help me get him out, I was really distressed at one point and remember asking them why they wouldn't help me. It was horrible. I remember saying oh fuck a few times as I was pushign him out too.

Everyone was lovely though and I had a room full, I think a senior consultant, few doctors, midwives and student midwives as I had a few problems with his heartrate dipping, it was scary.

my first was the same there too, her heart started decelerations after a contraction and i had 3 midwifes, a student and a consultant in at the time of her birth. It was decided by the midwives i would also need an episiotemy...wouldnt you know as she went to do it, my eldest came out, without even grazing me never mind tearing me. so it would have been for nothing. I suppose i dont have a lot of faith in midwives as a result

maybemaybee - that's odd as that happened with me too. They were stood right there with a huge needle about to do it and I pushed him out, I'm terrified of needles so I think it was through fear! Same happened with my second labour too. They were going to cut me as the baby was distresed both times though.

With ds1 the cord was wrapped around his shoulers which explained the heartrate dips and they think with ds2 his heartrate was dipping because it happened so fast.

I screamed with my first and was told to shut up too, she said 'you are scaring the other ladies'

Had I the energy I'd have slapped her. Second time I had a Doula and made a bit of noise but not much.

Screw it anyway, what matters is delivering the baby safe and sound.

think that is the foetal ejection reflex as described by michel odent, where a sudden surge of hormones , possibly adrenaline, practically flings the baby out of you!

I whimper when I'm in labour. And say "ow ow ow ow" in a really weedy little voice.

For your toddler, you could play roaring, bellowing games in the run-up, then it will be noises he's used to you making.

I was really really quiet with mine until I reached 8cm, and then I was really quite vocal. DH told me that he was glad that it didn't coincide with the antenatal class next door. I think that anything that gets you through, gets you through. Are there prizes for the quietest birth?

not me, i am not scared of needles at all, in fact i watched them do the IV one for my drip which is HUGE! i was pushing fine they were just impatient, honest! MY second labour and her heart dipped too, my midwife looked at it for a while then said, oh you kow what, she is probably just grabbing her cord when you are contracting, cheeky monkey. No panic at all!

First I was very quiet (blame that on shock) - second I screamed so much DH thought my head was going to explode (think this was more because I knew DS2 was going to be stillborn and less to do with the pain - the drugs helped that!) God knows what I'll be like with this baba

That's awful oopsadaisyangel, must have been heartbreaking, no wonder you screamed.

I remember going onto the labour ward and hearing alot of shouting. Turned to my DP and said surely that isnt necessary, . Que 15 hours later bellowing my head off asking jesus for help and shouting just get it out of me.