How long after birth before visitors?

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How long do you think it's reasonable to wait after the baby is born before visitors should arrive? I was thinking DH only on the same day, no visitors until the next day

it depends on what your family are like. my inlaws are rude and very demanding and always turn up without calling. i fell out with mil big time because she kept comming around everyday and would just grab the baby and wouldnt let them go when they needed feeding. she never talks, just sits there for hours!!! they even turned up at the hospital uninvited!!! i think they thought they would be watching the birth. they sent husband in with a camera and then showed everybody the photos of me and baby immediately (and i mean literally minutes) after the birth to everybody. i thought they were quite personal photos and i certainly didnt want them copied and given to all my inlaws and be hanging on strangers walls.
i have friends who have lovely inlaws who i would have welcomed the same day. they made cups if tea etc and helped at a very stressful time.
my parents waited for me to invite them and let me have a few days to get sorted and to get rid of the in-laws.

you could e-mail or text them a photo of new baby on the same day with an invitation when you will be ready fo visitors. you could say '.....would like to invite you for a cuddle on tuesday at 11am, please bring chocolate/cake/earplugs!!!(heeeeheee)'

also say about perfume, just pop it into conversation. as mil came once with perfume so strong i wanted to vomit and i wouldnt let her hold baby as i worried what it would do to him. i was to polite to say why but she did stink, everybody noticed. she must have put it on in the car before she got out. some people just dont think or realise, its just like cigarete smoke.

lol re the perfume - who was she trying to impress - the baby?!
MIL is the tactless kind - would turn up to see baby but would end up talking about herself nonstop and not stop for a moment to ask how I am (she hasn't asked once yet in my 35 wks of pregnancy)

mel2005 you aren't me are you? You've just described my MIL with each baby.

allnew it also depends what your DH is like. Mine won't say boo to a goose so while I was getting more and more upset about his mother's behaviour he (a) didn't notice and (b) wouldn't dream of upsetting her. ( I have seethed for 22 years about the way MIL was with DD1 )

All my visitors wanted me to make them tea, while they held baby!

I wised up and left tea/coffee/cups and jug of milk out on a tray and told them to make their own!!

allnew - sounds like my MIL and yours must be dopple gangers! She never asks after me either...

DS1 we waited till the next day ( he was born at 5pm)
DS2 was born at lunchtime and we had our good friends that live next door in for tea and cake about 3pm (he was born at 12noon.)
Both boys were born at home.

DS was born at 5am.

Had both sets of parents adn my sister come up about 1pm to the hospital,only stayed half an hour.

went home at 7pm. PIL came round next day.

Hubbie made a 'Do not disturb' sign for the door so whenever i was sleeping or didnt feel like seeing anyone he put that up- and it worked! xx