Bad dreams - anxiety

[Ren2010]

Hiya,

just writing in here because i keep having a reoccurring dream and it sends me spiralling in the night but I can always rationalise the next day I just wanted to see if anyone else has had something similar?

I am 29+1 pregnant it’s my first pregnancy and only my partner, dad, MIL and people at work that need to know, know. So I can’t talk to friends.

I keep dreaming that I come home with baby and I can’t make a bottle, I don’t know how to or I follow the instructions and it doesn’t look right. I get so stressed and upset in my dream and it’s always the early hours of the night in my dream too where I’m thumbling around not knowing what to do.

I have this dream regularly, and now it’s stressing me like what if this does come true even though I know how to make a bottle … I’m just rambling but the reoccurrence is annoying me too.

are dreams like this normal during pregnancy?

thanks for reading my ramble x

Oh gosh I remember having the weirdest pregnancy dreams! I believe it's hormone related to have unusual dreams in pregnancy. Plus you are bound to be anxious about caring for your baby the best you can, so I'd imagine that's ramping it up.

Try to rationalise it. How many hundreds/thousands of dreams have you had in your lifetime that have not come true? They are just dreams. It's your subconscious bringing your worries to the surface and nothing more. Not sure if this is a bit bonkers, but would it help to get some formula and practice making one? Might put your mind at ease.

Everyone is different but I hope you'll feel comfortable to tell some of your friends your good news soon. It can be helpful to have people in the same stage of life as you to lean on. And lastly, if you feel yourself excessively worrying about things and it's impacting your day to day life, consider discussing it with your Midwife. See if its worth having a referral to your Perinatal Mental Health support team if you think it might help.

@remaininghopeful23 thank you so so much for your reply and reading my ramble, I think you’re absolutely right, I do well at rationalising but sometimes have a little niggle like what if it’s true.

I think that’s actually a really good idea about buying some formula and making a few bottles it might ease the subconscious mind at night, it’s so strange how nothing else is coming in my dreams other than bottles haha! I’m a really chilled out laid back person and have to say other than the beginning of pregnancy when I had some bleeding I really haven’t had any anxiety about anything not even the thought of labour …. Yet 🫣🤭.

if it does continue and keeps niggling ill mention it to my midwife, I’m not sure if the dreams have come as I’ve been doing so much research into the better formula, do I want a prep machine, which bottles do I buy - how do I know I’ll buy the right ones etc.

I think my friends will deffo find out very soon as I can no longer hide bump and I’ve dodged way too many social outings now lol! But I do have to say I have soooo enjoyed the quietness and the bubble, I haven’t been pregnant before so I can’t compare but it’s been a lovely 29+ weeks lol!

once again thank you so much for reading my ramble xx

Just tell your friends. Kindly, women get pregnant all the time. It’s not going to cause the ruckus in your friend group you seem to think. And are you definitely planning to formula feed?

@Ren2010 No problem at all😊 I always need someone to talk me down when my mind goes running like that. I'd say you're right, you've immersed yourself into researching bottle feeding and it's just playing on your mind. No harm having a go at making a bottle and maybe it will put it to rest.

In terms of knowing what to buy/if you're buying the right bottles etc. I would suggest not buying much right now. Keep it basic, don't splurge. Every baby is so different, some bottles will work for one baby and not for another. I just bought a starter back of Mam bottles in the beginning on a friend's advice, I think there were 4 in it. They worked for us, so then I bought more. My DH had to remind me that it's literally a quick trip to a shop to pick up more items as needed, and not to feel I needed every single thing ready in advance. Basics will do.

It's good to hear you aren't experiencing any other sort of anxiety. I'm sure it's been nice experiencing pregnancy in your own bubble. I was very fearful to share with others after experiencing fertility issues and a loss, so didn't share with many until after my 20 week scan. Not quite as long as you but I can sort of relate😊 Im sure it will also be lovely to share the excitement with your friends too. Best of luck with the remainder of your pregnancy and your little one's arrival!

@BrokenLine my friends will be absolutely over the moon for me and there would be no rupture or anything, it’s just personal choice of not sharing the news as I am enjoying my own little bubble and pregnancy 😊, I am hopeful I will be able to do a bit of both 😊

@remaininghopeful23 yeah for sure too much research lol! And then seeing all the options in the shops is quite overwhelming lol!

that’s a really good idea, I don’t know why I think I have to have it all now etc especially when everything is so easy to get hold of!

im sorry to hear about your fertility issues and your loss! 🫶

i feel so much better just been able to type it out and feel I’m not loopy lol! Xx