lots of things to bear in mind here.
- Competence of midwife and assisting midwife are key. If they are competent in homebirths and that is their niche they will get through most problems. Ask lots of questions about those you have in mind to assist you. Particularly how many homebirths, how many transfers to hospital - at what stage & for what reason etc
- Your health/experience/attitude to birth. Are you confident about birth and in good health?
- Where do you live? When planning my second delivery/first homebirth the fact that I am about 15 minutes drive from several hospitals was a factor that gave me some confidence and apparantly an ambulance could get to me within 4 minutes!
It helped me to think a lot that homebirth used to be the norm here, not so very long ago and still is in many places around the world. Babies are generally robust and designed to survive, similarly women are designed to bear children!
There are no guarantees though but those who do it generally are amazingly positive about it. I had the most amazingly straight forward 1st labour in hospital, I literally did not need to conciously push my body did all the work within 20 minutes of arriving at hospital. Yet the staff wanted me to get into positions that were agonizing, strap me to machines that disturbed me and then wanted to give me drugs I didn't need to speed up delivery of the placenta and then a catheter cos they assumed I would not be able to go to the toilet. they had little instinct for how my labour was progressing but just wanted to treat me according to the model of treatment they give to most women. My 2nd delivery was so different. I was left alone by a midwife that knew I could do it. And I was completely confident that all would be great and that I had good people around me who respected my ability and need to labour my own way. When my son was born he did not independently breathe for about 30 minutes. There was no drama at all. We were all calm. The midwives kept saying the placenta is pulsing, he's getting oxygen, he's a great colour. They tugged his earlobes and wafted an oxygen mask over his face and eventually he got the idea and started breathing. He was just very sleepy and relaxed. I can't help thinking that if that had been in hopsital he would have been whisked off to special care. As it was he laid in my arms and was attached to the cord for about 50 minutes after birth.
Having said that I have heard about a homebirth that happened around the corner from where I live that went very wrong and now the child has severe cerebral palsy as a result but this was entirely down to extreme incompetence on the part of the midwives. However, had they been in hospital the incompetence of the midwives would probably not have had the disastrous results it did as other professionals would have been almost immediately on hand to interevene and the correct and working equipment immediatly available (these midwives had a broken oxygen machine that did not work at all). So if you go down the homebirth route my advice is that you have to be confident in taking charge, even way before birth, in examining the competence of the people who will be helping you - don't assume they are competent. You need to ask what their experience is of various situations is, howthey prepare for each birth (eg checking oxygen equipment) and what their approach would be to various scenarios.
For me its about weighing up risks. For me I think the risk of something going wrong is so low that I am prepared to take it as it outweighs what I perceive as a very high risk that in a hospital I will not get the birth experience that suits me and mine. But this is entirely my view and only a reflection of my experience and personality.
Its scary to imagine things going wrong and take what some people perceive to be risky course. Motherhood is a lot about instinct - what does your instinct tell you is best for you and your baby?
Lots of luck, and hoping my long rant may have been a bit helpful. I don't think I've answered you question but don't know whether anyone could really.