Should my DH bring my DS to see me in the hospital after C-section?

[Suzisushka]

I’m scheduled for a planned C-section in February and will likely stay in the hospital for 2–3 days afterwards. My DH will be spending a lot of time at the hospital with me and our newborn. I’m wondering whether it would be a good idea for him to bring once our 3-year-old DS to the hospital to see me and meet his new baby sister, or if it might be better for DS to wait at home until I’m discharged.

What have you done if you were in a similar situation? I’d love to hear your thoughts and advice!

I wasn’t allowed to go to see my sibling at hospital. … I am 60 and probably rules have changed.
One of my first memories is running past my mums open arms to meet my sister carried by my Dad behind. It was a very very special memory . I loved her straight away and we were inseparable. My sister died in her 40’s when I think of her I always think of that moment of total joy.

DC1 came to hospital on day 2 after baby was born (lunchtime on day 1). Day 1 I was in no fit state to talk to anyone as recovering from general. Day 2 I felt more human and like I could look more healthy for our DC to see me!!

I didnt have a csection but had to stay in for 2 days after I had DS. DD who was almost 2 at the time was brought to the ward to visit us. It was so so nice to see her

I had a c-section almost two weeks ago. Spent two nights in the hospital while my mum took care of DD (2.5 years). I went in for a pre-op that turned into me staying for a c-sec when they realised I was in labour. We’d explained to DD that I had to pop to the hospital to get baby brother checked and that we’d be back as soon as we could be. I’m glad we left it vague! My mum explained a bit more to her. But she’d been really well prepared for his arrival.

When we brought DS home, we made sure DD was in another room, went to see her first and then we all ‘met’ baby brother together. It worked well to offset some of the jealousy we were worried about.

I really think it depends on the child and how long you’ll be in/away from them/who would be taking care of them. It would’ve unsettled DD to see me in hospital, and I was concerned about her laying blame for me being a bit fragile with DS. I had a hard time with my last c-sec so I never even considered DD coming to the hospital this time. Too young. She was also really happy to stay with my mum.

Mine came in 3 hours after baby was born. I was home within 24 hours. I'd be surprised if you stay in for 3 days.