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C-section Date Moved

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Lunamoon23 · 06/12/2024 21:16

Just writing this purely to have a little moan ... so do excuse me.

I received my csection date last Friday, was scheduled for next Wednesday. Got a voicemail today, stating the date is being moved to the Thursday instead. I completely understand, in retrospect it's a day.. but just feeling completely deflated by it.
I opted for a ELCS due to high health anxiety, distrust of the medical services and also baby is breech and I've been told it would have been what was recommended regardless (he's been breach since 20 weeks).

I have a birth plan with the PNMHT and the voicemail was really blunt and to the point, no explanation given... just that it was now the day after and to arrive at the same time.

I'm so uncomfortable in my pregnancy now, I was mentally coping quiet well with the date I'd been given and was feeling quiet calm, almost too calm and relaxed about it. But I feel like this has just thrown a spanner into it all for me. I'm now feeling anxious that they're going to do it again, at even shorter notice, or even on the day (which I was told could potentially happen if emergencies come in).

Just wanted to moan basically. Feeling sorry for myself. Apologies xxx

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Planits · 06/12/2024 21:22

I understand it’s frustrating but really there’s no big deal here. Enjoy an extra day with your feet up.

Pistachiochiochio · 06/12/2024 21:24

Are you getting any help with your anxiety?

GetItInYerBag · 06/12/2024 21:27

Spend that extra day doing lovely things such as a nice bath/swim (you won't be able to have a bath for week after your c section), wash your hair, maybe do a sheet face mask, read a book...all the things that can fall by the wayside when you have a newborn. It is only one extra day, perhaps contact the PNMHT if you need some extra support.

MrRobinsonsQuango · 06/12/2024 21:34

Annoying. I would prefer to be advised in advance though. I turned up for a c section, was nil by mouth, they told me at 11am it might not happen, stopped the nil by mouth at 4pm but didn’t discharge until 8pm. They wouldn’t admit me over night but also couldn’t focus or stop faffing. I gave them an ultimatum in the end of either discharge in the next 30 minutes or l was walking out anyway. Fuming. Then had to go back the next day to do it again. Nil by mouth is super hard with a twin pregnancy l got to find out -so so thirsty! They said they would do me first, only actually started a bit after 1230pm 🙄.

Ponderingwindow · 06/12/2024 21:39

it is frustrating to be at the whim of a large bureaucracy. From a health perspective, it means there is actually very little to be worried about. If you or the baby were in any real danger, your date would be firm. The reason you are getting chosen for reschedule is because your case is simple and you and your baby are safe.

BibbityBobbityToo · 06/12/2024 21:45

Try and focus on being greatful we have an NHS that cares so well for us.

Many women in the world don't have the luxury of a c-section to avoid a breech birth. You've waited nearly 9 months, another day doesn't matter.

Julia34 · 06/12/2024 21:49

I understand you I had c section too . I be think my birth gonna start before the planned c section. How many weeks you are? Try not to stress. You will have c section. I was have c section because I was scared of childbirth pain

FutureFry · 06/12/2024 22:04

12.12.24 is such a cool birthday though!

Nc546888 · 07/12/2024 16:47

Feel for you but IMO in the event of being bumped again you should feel for the emergency sections which are bumping yours. Some quite distressing emergency sections who would rather be in your place of calm and safe a dozen times over

Unsure4589 · 07/12/2024 19:29

I got bumped by a day with my first and I remember feeling so deflated for a bit too. Like you I was given advanced notice and I’m very glad I didn’t have to wait around in hospital and could spend the extra time on myself. Ironically my original date had fallen on the same day as performance I had bought tickets for TWO years earlier - it’d been rescheduled a bunch of times due to Covid. So, miraculously we were able to go that night!

The revised date also meant our DD had the same birthday as her great granny, on the last day of June. Guess what great granny’s name was… yep, June! So that solved the middle name issue we’d been having the whole pregnancy! 😂

Basically there can be a silver lining to the disappointment. You just have to try and find it. I say all this from the perspective of someone who doesn’t have health anxiety though, so I hope you’re being properly supported for that. The best advice I could give is to take it hour by hour and spend the time on taking care of YOU.

Good luck, OP! If I go for it, my next planned section will be in 16 days. Unless, of course I get bumped and boy do I not want a Christmas Eve birthday for my baby!

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Lunamoon23 · 07/12/2024 22:23

FutureFry · 06/12/2024 22:04

12.12.24 is such a cool birthday though!

I actually hadn't realised that - and I love it! Thank you.

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Lunamoon23 · 07/12/2024 22:25

Unsure4589 · 07/12/2024 19:29

I got bumped by a day with my first and I remember feeling so deflated for a bit too. Like you I was given advanced notice and I’m very glad I didn’t have to wait around in hospital and could spend the extra time on myself. Ironically my original date had fallen on the same day as performance I had bought tickets for TWO years earlier - it’d been rescheduled a bunch of times due to Covid. So, miraculously we were able to go that night!

The revised date also meant our DD had the same birthday as her great granny, on the last day of June. Guess what great granny’s name was… yep, June! So that solved the middle name issue we’d been having the whole pregnancy! 😂

Basically there can be a silver lining to the disappointment. You just have to try and find it. I say all this from the perspective of someone who doesn’t have health anxiety though, so I hope you’re being properly supported for that. The best advice I could give is to take it hour by hour and spend the time on taking care of YOU.

Good luck, OP! If I go for it, my next planned section will be in 16 days. Unless, of course I get bumped and boy do I not want a Christmas Eve birthday for my baby!

I feel like now I've had time to digest the news, I feel a lot better about it. I know it's only 24 hours, which in hindsight is nothing and I'm lucky me and little one are safe in our pregnancy. I think it was just the initial disappointment. Of course, you count down the days when you get this close, and even 24 hours seems like a lifetime longer. But, it is what it is, and this time next week I'll still have my little one in my arms! That's all that matters right?

Amazing that you were able to go to a show you'd long been waiting for though! I don't think I could manage that 😂 I'm so uncomfortable now.

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Lunamoon23 · 07/12/2024 22:26

Julia34 · 06/12/2024 21:49

I understand you I had c section too . I be think my birth gonna start before the planned c section. How many weeks you are? Try not to stress. You will have c section. I was have c section because I was scared of childbirth pain

I'm 38weeks+6. I'll be 39weeks + 4 on the day of my scheduled c section. Originally I was having a ELCS due to the same fear, now it's become medically nessasary due to baby being footling breech. Xxxxx

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