Scotland - Midwife home visits

[OnNaturesCourse]

Can I refuse this/request that they be done at the clinic instead?

DC is due Christmas week and, all going well, I will likely be at my parents house over Christmas day etc. Plus with other DCs at home and Christmas madness I just don't want to be hanging around the house waiting all day on them to call. I'm very anxious when due visitors to the house and will constantly be cleaning up and tidying (which is likely to be worse with the Christmas crazies the kids get) until midwife has been.

I just want to relax and enjoy the festive period and new baby as much as possible while getting all checks etc done in a timely manner ie an appointment time and not waiting around all day like I have had in previous experiences.

Maybe but just see how you go. You might need the check or they might reschedule if all going well

I don't mind the checks but I would rather schedule an appointment at the midwife clinics instead of waiting around on them coming to me.

I hate the hanging around feeling on the days they visits as you don't know when they are coming so can't do anything, and with my last DC the visiting midwife used to get very arsey if baby or I wasn't ready for her ie we were napping, bathing, eating etc.

I think they like to come and see you in your own environment but I'm sure you could request to visit them. Mine were always pretty good at giving a time they would be? I really wouldn't stress yourself about keeping the house tidy etc, they will have seen much worse

They probably relax on second babies as you know what you're doing. Hopefully someone who knows better will answer soon. I think the check is a number of things including safeguarding you both but don't quote me on that

The clinic likely won't be open on some days over the festive period. They aren't coming to check on the state of the house, they don't care any of that, but it is important to get the baby checked out, especially in the first few weeks. Can you task you partner with keeping a room tidy for the midwife visit?

You mention other kids, so this isn't your first baby? Babies don't always come on time, even second or 3rd ones, so you might still be pregnant after christmas.

Their clinic premises might be shut over Christmas week?
sounds like you have other kids so you know the drill - I had to be forcibly evicted from my bed/sofa each time I had a newborn but you sound like a very active superwoman!

I understand they aren't checking the house but my anxiety around that doesn't listen to sense unfortunately.

Plus I'll likely not actually be at home as I plan on being at my parents for additional support.

I understand the safeguarding but I've been through all this before, and have a good relationship with my midwife from my prenatal checks etc.

I could likely still be pregnant but that doesn't change the situation of hoping to be at my parents and not wanting to hang around all day when I have DCs needing naps, feeding, bathing etc.

If my local area gave times I'd maybe be more open to the idea but they don't. They simply say we will aim to visit in the AM/PM of X date.

@EBoo80 I don't plan on being superwoman, and I'll be sat on my backside as much as possible given the chance. My best chance of that is being at my parents as much as possible. However I've been pretty lucky with my other births and been back on my feet within the week, I can only hope to be the same this time round.

Could they visit you at your parents? Do whatever suits you best, obviously!

@EBoo80 I will ask if that is a opition! But they fall into a different catchment area so I'm not sure (they just fall into it and no more annoyingly)

I just think I can't be the only one who goes elsewhere for support/doesn't like hanging around when I could be napping/bathing etc etc.