Newborn baby

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How do you get your baby to like being swaddled (either by blanket or tommee tippie sleep bags) and to get them so sleep in their next to me crib.
One very tired mummy to a 5 day old

Some babies are simply impossible to put down , my second would only sleep on me so I ended up cosleeping as it was getting dangerous trying to stay awake with him all night and having 2-3 hrs sleep a night !

It's worth being persistent and keep trying but I didn't manage to get mine into a cot until he was 6 months old

No all newborns like a swaddle. Some like it a bit older. Your baby is very young. I hope your lo settles soon. Can your husband help so you get some sleep?

You have to follow there lead. Your baby may not like being swaddled. It's really trial and error see what works for your baby however in reality this is expected from a 5 day old. But sleep deprivation at is normal at this stage.

Hi OP, congratulations on your lovely baby! Our little one didn't like his next to me at that age, we think he felt a bit lost and lonely in it. He did sleep in his Moses basket where he felt a bit more snug so we put the basket inside the next to me. We didn't start swaddling him until about 6 weeks old so can't help with that I'm afraid.

Congrats OP! More people co-sleep than they want to admit. Safe sleep 7 guidelines help do this securely.

My first wouldn't be put down and things that helped a little - putting a hot water bottle in the moses basket before putting him in, to warm the sheets. Took it out before he went in. Warming the blankets helped too. If I was awake and in the same room, he preferred being out on his side, propped by a rolled blanket, or tummy to sleep. He liked being snug so rolling a blanket up and tucking it around him worked sometimes. Making sure the cot sheets smelled like me helped a little too. When putting him down, I used to put him bum first on the mattress and leave my hands on his tummy until he settled. The rockit gadget for moving the buggy is meant to be brilliant too. White noise on YouTube / an app also helped.

Not going to lie these tricks only worked half the time - some babies are just velcro babies I'm afraid. If you can delegate holding the baby to someone else, you need sleep more than anyone else in your household right now. This phase is so tough but it gradually gets easier over time. ❤️

Hi OP, at 5 days I didn't bother going up to bed I would just sit up in the living room with the TV on as the baby can't tell the difference between night and day etc yet, helped me to stay awake with access to snacks etc and then when the baby did settle to sleep (agree with others re Moses basket or bassinet of pram) I could just sleep on sofa. Really helped me cope by understanding it was all normal and to lean in to it, I promise it all changes so quickly - by 7/8 weeks baby only wanted to be in dark quiet room to sleep so we started going to bed and using the next to me etc

My first hated being put down. For the first 2 weeks me and my husband took it in turns to do 4 hour shifts with her through the night. She'd sleep on us down stairs while we watched a Netflix show or some movies for a few hours while the other was in bed, then we'd swap over.

When he went back to work we ended up bringing her carrycot from the pram upstairs, she's always slept well in that, put it inside her next to me crib and we managed to get a few hours sleep at a time. I know it's not advised but weighing up the risks, I thought that was a better option than risk me falling to sleep while I was holding her.

Yours doing amazing, it does get better xx

Congratulations OP on your new bundle of joy. I have 2 DC (one 6 months), youngest hated being swaddled but has slept in a baby sleeping bag since birth. Could you try one of those? I swaddled my eldest in a cellular blanket as it was the only one he’d settle with. It’s all trial and error. 🥰

Honestly some babies just won't. DD1 would but it was a real pain to get her to fall asleep. She'd often ping open her eyes the second you let go of her and you'd have to start again. DS never slept in the next to me. He was never swaddled either, he liked to move his limbs too much. DD2 is only a week old but she will (for now) be out down awake in her next to me and just send herself off to sleep. I genuinely thought behaviour like this was a myth. It's definitely nothing I've done differently with her.