tell you what then... don't!
hah! you thought I was serious then didn't you
right, in the absence of someone who knows what they are talking about, you get to see my views:
First of all, it is perfectly natural and normal to be terrified a bit apprehensive about the birth - but you are not to dwell on it. It will all happen regardless of how you feel about it, and if it was that bad, nobody would ever have two, would they?
Birthing ball - you sit on it, roll your pelvis on it, or lean on it, it is like a big, squashy cushion and it does make early labour pains much more bearable. You can buy them fairly cheaply - if you look on ebay under "excercise ball" rather than "birthing ball" they seem to be cheaper.
tens machine: particularly good for back labour. I gave birth to dd2 with nothing but a tens machine (I had a bit of G & A but didn't much like it so stopped) It feels tingly and can be very, very effective; especially if you have a good birthing partner.
g & a: can make you very very woozy. It helps with the pain because it takes you "out of it" so, whilst you still kind of feel the pain, you just don't care any more. Tis like having a really good spliff.
pethidine: made me very, very sick so have no real experience of this, only had it once when I had dd1 and since then it's in my notes not to give it to me.
epidural: there are different levels of this I think. What they do is numb you completely from the waist down. So you don't feel any contractions or birth pains, but you also don't know when to push or not. I had one with dd1 but I believe things have got much better since then. There are risks attached to this procedure, but it is carried out by an anaesthatist, so they are made as minimal as poss. I believe that the necessity for interventions after an epidural are nowadays no more than without the epidural, but back when I had dd1, things weren't so good.
I had another epidural with ds, but had him by ecs so twas different.
mammoth post, probably all crap, but hope I've given you somehting to think about anyway.