Terrified positive hpt c section 4

[GunesM]

Hey guys sorry but i just meed somewere to express how worried i am right now i am 37 with 3 children youngest being 10 all uncomplicated c-section births i was not told not to have more in the future but fully aware of the risks. On sat i missed my period and have tested positive i am terrified about this being 4th c-section worried about my age and also how my older children will take this as they have never been keen on the idea of anymore babies someone please provide me some positive advice my anxiety has peaked i am around 4 to 5 weeks

If you don't want to have a baby don't have one?
If you do, I wouldn't worry so much about the other things, they will sort themselves.

İt doesn't feel that way when you are in shock and are an overthinker I would love to have that approach on all,aspects but i suffer anxiety. Ending the pregnancy is not something i personally could consider.

I'm sure a 4th c section isn't anything to worry about? As for the age gap at least the kids are in school and pretty independent I've a 13 year age gap between my eldest and my youngest. It's not been too bad teen has her own life.

Thanks for the positivity. İm just aware there is more risks the more c sections that are done and major surgery at 37 feels pretty daunting when you have anxiety I overthink and get irrational fear so ita really hard at the moment and i dont plan to tell anyone for a few weeks yet.
Yes all my boys are independanr now really 16 13 and 10 i just fear it will impact there life negativily having a little one disturbing there peace i suppose

Decide how much you want this baby, and how it fits in with your life?
Before you decide anything else or stress

There's loads of woman who have sections older. Lots of "older" woman are having babies now. Teenagers can sleep through pretty much anything so I wouldn't worry about baby keeping them up.
It is starting all over again don't get me wrong but there is good parts too. Dd sometimes helps out watches the young one while I grab a quick shower ect.

Is dad in the picture?

Yes we are a happily married couple.

Have you spoken to him about it yet?

Being that i am still very early about 4 to 5 weeks i have told him i suspect i may be pregnant i havent told him i have tested as i feel i am needing to adjust to the news. He is a religious man and abortion is not an option he just said well if you are its obviously meant to be not many men can relate to a woman's anxiety and fear.

I get that. How are you feeling about it now?

This sounds terrible but im trying to forget the fact this is happening for now being so early anything can happen and i feel like I kind of wish nature resolves this for me as awful as that must sound finding it all very hard to accept this is strange because im a mother who has never felt done i have always said if I had one more etc and never closed the book on it so im struggling with why i feel like this maybe its shock and the anxiety i already have naturally just feel in a lonely space right now thank-you for taking time to chat

I get what you mean. When I found out I was pregnant with my last baby I felt the same though I'm like you never say never. It could be the shock and the worry. A baby is no small decision.

Still really anxious and nit sleeping well atall x

@GunesM hi how did you get on ? I have 3 kids mine aren’t as old as yours there pretty young 2/3/4 years my last c section was 2 years ago im only 6 weeks!
but the thought of having another c section does scare me but I don’t wanna get rid of my baby so its a hard one and ive not had chance to speak with anyone as of yet as midwife’s don’t tend to contact you until 8+ weeks so be couple more weeks until I get to talk with one of them .
hope everything worked out for you in the end I know how your feeling very hard decision you just got to do what’s right for you x

I have had 4 c sections in 7 years. Dc3 was 15 months old when I had my 4th c section. All babies were big, lightest was 9lb, heaviest was 11.6lbs. Honestly it's fine, they have an extra surgeon on standby for complications, but they are rarely needed. You also have the fact that your gap is bigger. Overthinking is never a great idea, but when you have a surprise pregnancy, esp when you thought the baby days were over, it's completely understandable.

@GunesM @Shauna2866 - I'm hoping you might still be here to update? I'm in the same position - I'm 36, I have 3 children by c sections and my youngest is only 18 months. I'm 7 weeks pregnant. My husband is also devout and is only happy about the baby. I'm trying to be but my anxiety is through the roof... I'm such an over thinker. I hope everything went well for you both xxx