Scared of child birth

[pregooolady]

This will be baby 6 and I'm scared to give birth. Firstly yes I no I've done it before but my labour was super quick nearly didn't make it to the hospital and secondly I'm having anxiety about dying.

I've never bleed out most I've lost is 200ml

But for some reason I have this fear feeling like someone bad is going to happen and my kids will be left without a mum:

My labours are normally around 6 hours so last baby was a shock when it happened all so fast !

Plus this pregnancy it's just gone wrong from the start small baby growth scans sickness now consaltant next week to see if there gunna induce as baby keeps dropping down centile

I hate anxiety 😦

I had severe anxiety with both my births. I was convinced I'd die!
It got so bad that I had to have therapy and it helped so much.

Are there any talking therapy services local to you that you'd be comfortable signing up for?

What's started this fear off? How many months pregnant are you? Feeling scared and anxious is normal but if it's affecting you too much then seek help. Wishing you a healthy pregnancy and a quick delivery and a healthy baby 🙏❤️

It is natural that you are anxious - you have 5 precious lives at home waiting for you and it has to go right for their sakes!

Just take heart that you will be in the hands of professionals and you know what you are doing.

If your last baby arrived quickly make sure you're not too far away in the couple of weeks before birth. Get your bag for the hospital ready early. You know you can do it because you've done it all before several times. You are probably worried because of a difficult pregnancy. If you are induced you will be in hospital and safe for baby because it will be monitored all the time.

@Safxxx I'm not sure I think as I'm older now I'm 33 and heard people bleed more the more births they have.

And I don't like hospitals as it is lol xx

You are not old OP many women are starting their families in late 30's and early 40's. Talk to your midwife about your concerns and worries, hopefully she can put your mind at rest. You can't control what will happen but you can control how you go about it. Keep yourself distracted and don't let it overwhelm you as you need your sanity at this stage. You did it 5 times before you can do it again 🙏 positive vibes ❤️

I had my babies at 32 and 35 and they were straightforward, no excessive bleeding. I know women who had their babies late thirties and also had straightforward births.

I was so anxious and terrified I ended up going in to be monitored. Midwife kept asking if baby was moving around and I didn't know what was normal (first baby). Anyway, I ended up being induced as they had loads of space on the ward and said baby was ready. Anxiety went immediately as I was in bed being checked every hour by amazing midwives. Took a while for baby to come. I had a severe bleed immediately after but it was stopped with an injection. I didn't need a blood transfusion and I still went home the next day.

I found out afterwards that my mum had a severe bleed with me and needed a blood transfusion (36 years ago). My sister in law also said she had the same with her two. It's a lot more common than you think and they are all geared up ready for all possibilities. Non of us have had any long lasting effects from it.

@GirlMumGabby how far pregnant was you when they induced u?

I'm scared of induction and I definitely don't want c section

I have an appointment next week when I'll be 34 weeks to see if they want to induce me due to reduced growth x

I was 38 weeks. I honestly found being induced took all the worry away for me. I felt safe being there. They constantly checked on me. I went through every stage of induction but they said that was quite common for first time mums. There was never a mention of C section for me. It was just waiting. I was there 5 days in total.

We're all your other babies small birth weight? Or normal? Have they done a growth scan or are they just measuring you? The scan is more accurate then the measurements

@Safxxx
First 4.14 36 weeks spontaneous labour growth scans
Second 3.1 34 weeks spontaneous labour growth scans
Third 5.1 40 weeks growth scan on due date but was in labour so broke waters
Fourth 6.7 41 weeks growth scans but was ok
Five 6.1 40 weeks growth scans coz of previous

This one having growth scans since 28 weeks he was doing ok but dropped to 10th centile at last scan

Maybe because of all the scares before it's make me anxious x

No wonder your anxious, but rest assured and have faith all will be ok 🙏 looks like they're taking good care of you with monitoring, any concerns speak to your midwife and never hesitate to call the ward if you have concerns regarding the babies movements. You will be in good care so trust the professionals to do their job and you concentrate on getting that baby out in good health ❤️ wishing you all the best ❤️

Hi lovely , I had severe anxiety. I was very distressed during labour , to the point I was hysterically wailing that I was going to die and begged for a section. I have a mild heart condition tho. In the end , I had a vaginal birth with forceps and vacuum and while it was absolutely horrendous and ill never attempt a vaginal birth again, but hey I'm still alive
My pregnancy was really complicated, one issue after another and was eventually induced at 38, which had it been left longer my little boy might not be here as my cord was failing and he hadnt grown in weeks. My pregnancy wss complicated as was the birth and forth coming weeks as my little boy was in nici but were doing ok.
As for centile, it can change so quickly. He wss always sitting around 40 then suddenly drooped down below 10 and we had extra growth scans then suddenly he shot upto 70 centile before coming back down and steady for a while before we started having cord issues. He wss born at 6lbs1 .

33 is young. I had DS1 34 Nmand DS2 37 and plan on having 1 - 2 more before being done.
You can get medication for anxiety in pregnancy and therapy..very normal fears and concerns but shouldn't overtake your life.