3under3

[ThatPlumPoster]

Hi,
What is 3 under 3 like or is it better to space out children by 2 years so it would be 3 under 3. What is the best age gaps for 3 kids

Close gaps are really hard for a few years but also has advantages as you get rid of all the baby stuff quicker and the kids are more likely to enjoy being together if closer in age, although not guaranteed. Another disadvantage of close ages is that you may have 3 at Uni together which is where we are currently!!

Thank you so much, I think I'd stick to maybe spacing them about 22 months apart

I have no experience with 3 under, but from what I've seen with friends who have 3 under 4, it seems like a lot at once. Multiple nappies, varying sleep patterns, developmental stage etc.

Interestingly i saw one friend two days ago who was in this situation and I suggested to her it must be easier now that her youngest is 2.5 and potty trained (oldest is now 5). She said it's still hard, to my surprise - and she's a SAHM.

I'm due to deliver my 2nd in 2 weeks. By which point my DC will be 26 months. I think around 2 years is a good age gap for me, and future children i have. Old enough that i can spread baby stages, but close enough that they can share routines and experiences. But let's see how I feel in s few months.

@ThatPlumPoster my two are 26 months apart and I found the first year really, really challenging. In fact, they're still challenging at 1 and 3 because they argue and wrestle! I won't be having a third but if I did, I'd wait until my eldest starts school in 2025.

I have small age gaps and liked it. The teething, sleeplessness, weaning etc is all pretty much bunched together. They also grow up liking the same things at the same time which makes entertaining them much easier.

I have a 22m gap it is great for us but there have been some tricky bits.

there are 4 couples in our friendship group all had no 2 shortly after no 1, gaps ranged from 18-24m between siblings.
no 2s are now all aged between 6m -18m

we all love kids and all want big families. It is challenging even with help.
None of us are going for no 3 now all are sticking at 2 for a bit /forever.

we are all high income hh with “good husbands” and varying levels of family support… lowest/worst level of support being 1 x GP who is v hands on

i think if you want to be a SAHM maybe it’s different

Children 1 and 2 are 15 months apart and I'm due my third in a few months will have 3, 4 and under