3 kids at 21?!

[Smithynay]

Hello everyone I’m after some advice as I’m feeling so sad and besides myself. I’m just turnt 21 last month I’ve been a mum since I was 16. Some moments I feel so left out and outside of the world well most moments I feel like this. Doesn’t mean I regret my kids because I don’t It’s just seeing what everyone else done after school and it took and is taking a while to get over im sure some can relate. When I express this feeling i usually get blocked by my family and I haven’t had friends in years now so alone is truly me. I spend everyday with my kids and most days are great but I do find it hard on the more difficult days or if I’m feeling a bit down. I’m finally becoming settled with my life and how things are going I moved away and started a new and it was a good choice. Currently we’re finding hard to get my partner a job so we’re living off £700 a month and I’ve just found out I’m pregnant. I just keep crying I’m a horrible selfish person. I got myself pregnant when I know I can’t afford much right now and I don’t know if I could go through with abortion I have 8 months to sort it out but will I be able to? will I also cope with three? Please share your experiences and any advice is welcome I’m quite hormonal and already giving myself a hard time so try be kind honesty is appreciated though. Thank you x I haven’t had a scan yet imagine if it was twins!!

Why are your family blocking you?

You can do this. Your partner will find a job. What has he done in the past? Do you live in/near a big town or city or are you more rural?

You have options- please don't panic.

Big hugs x

I would seriously consider an abortion in your shoes. You barely have money now & three kids will be very tough.
Get on bullet proof contraception & go to college or something to get qualifications & get a job.

What ever you decide to do you need to sort out your contraception , nobody should be having unplanned pregnancies in this day and age in. A coil would be a good option.

In your position, I'd have a termination. Money isn't everything, but life is very hard without it and kids miss out.

Go to college, get a career and have a better life. Sort your contraception out.

I am much older and finacially stable with 2 children. If I was pregnant again I would terminate as I feel like I couldn’t parent my existing children as well if I had 3. But it’s a personal decision and only you can decide what’s right for your family.

Bless you, it’s the hardest decision in the world. What is your gut telling you to do? I became pregnant last year, very unexpectedly whilst on contraception. A bit different to you as I was 21 and had done two years of my degree, about to begin my final one. It was the hardest choice of my life, as I knew I wanted to finish university and have a career. One year later, I’m sat cuddling my three month old baby girl, and a few days ago I graduated from university. I start my job in a management role in January. Anything is possible. But you need to have faith in yourself. If three kids will stretch you to your emotional and financial limit, then maybe an abortion is the best option for you. If you feel in your heart that you can do it - and that the baby will improve your lives rather than make it worse - then go for it. Best of luck.