Prolapse repair?

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Has anyone had a prolapsed vagina repair done? I have a bowel prolapse (as well as bladder prolapse) after a forceps delivery and have lots of nerve damage too. I am considering surgery but the gynae says it is very risky. Its usually done to post menopausal women. I don't think I can live the rest of my life without corrective surgery even with the awful sex issue as the bowel function is so upsetting. Has anyone had any children after surgery? I am told I would get a section but I don't know if my body could carry the weight another child in pregnancy. I did want another but it seems thats gone now. Heartbroken.

I am bumping for you so hope someone out there can answer your question - I am not in a position to but you have my sympathy and support - have you had a few opinions on this? it could be another doctor has more experience and is therefore more positive about it?

Can you get a second opinion? I had a dreadful consultant who was very unhelpful about my bad scarring, so I asked the GP to refer me to a different hospital.
I don't have experience of prolapse though, so no advice on that score. Hopefully this thread will stay active and someone will come along soon. I'm sorry that you're going through this.

I've had four different opinions from gynaes, the one responsible for carrying out the delivery says that there is nothing wrong and can't explain why I am not recovering. One is all on for surgery and another says perhaps and the last said would it would make a difference but 30% of women who have the surgery regret it as it can make sex painful. Three have said that sex will never be the same again for me and that they see one or two women like me a year. I am so upset and I still can't believe it.

Hello changed 2,
I don't know what to say but couldn't just read your post and move on. I really feel for you. I'm bumping for you so maybe someone else can give their advice. Have you posted this in the HEALTH threads? Might be worthwile.

Wishing you all the best and a full recovery!!

you're not alone.

try doing a search on 4th degree tears and you'll find lot of advice and support.

yes, people have had children even after serious rectal repair - via csection.

and I think sex is different for a lot of people after child birth not necessarily worse but vaginal delivery changes things - it changes over the next couple of years - i don't know how recent you delivered but it takes longer than I expected to heal up - I have read that on the health threads. bumping.

Another bump.
Have you had any other form of help? I was given counselling free on the NHS, referred by my GP. I'm sure that as well as the physical problems, you must be emotionally battered by all this too.

I've been prescribed anti-depressants but its my body I want fixed. I'm so upset about it all that I will probably take them. There is no fun in life anymore so I suppose that means depression. I can't see it changing though until I get surgery but that can be disappointing according to someone. Hard to get solid information on this. You can't lift for three months after surgery so I don't know how I will manage with little ones. A C-section is a waik in the park in comparison. I will try the health thread but everything there seems minor. What I would give to be asking a question about breast feeding or eye infections.

I have had a episiotomy repair and lots of other stuff done recently, a tape put in to support neck of bladder to stop stress incontinence also and now I feel completely different down there - CAT me and I will gve you my surgeons details - one of the leading in the world apparently.

He is based at Blackheath in London.

I'm glad I've found this thread. Changed2 am so sorry to hear your situation.

I suffered a cervical prolapse when DD was 6 months. (first child) I had a difficult birth (episiotomy, ventouse, cervical tear) Went to GP about prolapse who referred me to gynae. A very brusque man who basically said options were: live with it, surgery or ring. He told me surgery wasn't an option till family complete. Showed me the ring pessary and I was horrified by the size of it. It sounded like a faff having it inserted, not knowing if it was the correct size, possibly having to try different sizes, its not permanent etc.

I've basically ended up living with it. slight incontinence, if I need to go I NEED to go! I'm a keen runner and this does hamper it (that said did a half marathon fortnight ago) Also cannot keep tampons in (sorry TMI) difficult again as also enjoy swimming.

DD is three, and I would like another child (have been putting this off due to horrendous labour last time) I feel that surgery would be an option but like you don't really know enough about it in terms of success, effects afterwards etc

Sorry Changed2 this isn't really an answer just genuine empathy. Anyone else out there who can offer anything?

You should NEVER have to accept any type of incontinence, EVER! You desperately need referral to a physio or the urodynamics department at your local hospital. Go back to your GP and DEMAND a referral, if he won't do it go to another GP. I did a short placement with our specialist urodynamics nurse and some of the women I saw in that time had suffered for years in silence. Please push for help, I know it is hard but you need to be strong.

Check out wholewoman.com/drupal/forum/ for an alternative view on surgery (or even if you go for that in the end, the site has lots of ideas for how to manage prolapses nonsurgically that you could use until then).