Arghhhh.
As I'm sure you have gathered now, no-one can tell you waht birth you are going to have, that is your decision, unless they are going to section you under the mental health act and then strap you to a bed I don't really see how they can stop you
Uterine rupture is very rare, a newer scar may be less likely to be healed, but it's not like it was only last week, so I'd ignore ths scaremongering and research it yourself tbh.
Also, if you/they are really worried about uterine rupture, personally I'd read up on what it entails. It doesn't mean you will explode never to be able to be sewn up again, in many cases of UR it is identified when it starts to happen and as such you would be taken down to theatre for an em CS and to have yourself sewn up. It's not ideal, but if you're being monitored properly and aware of the risks even the eventuality of UR is to some people preferable to a planned CS.
So my advice is to read up the risks wrt your situation, decide how important it is for you to try VBAC, and weigh up the risks, both of how likely a UR is, and what risks you are willing to take.
I'd also bear in mind that an EL CS has risks too, it's not a failsafe procedure (risks of respiratory problems with baby increase from 2-3% with VBAC to 4-5% with EL CS) so by agreeing to surgery you aren't necessarily stopping any possible outcomes being Not Great iyswim.
Plus if you have a CS this time, it could make it harder if you decide to have another baby to go for a VBAC after. (Though I am having a VBA2C this time round, so it is possible)
I'll leave you with my favourite link Looking at part 6.1 it does say that VBAC after less than 2years since previous CS is less likely to be successful, but that doesn't necessarily mean UR.
If you look at 7.2 is states that findings show an increased risk of 2 or 3x for UR if there is less than 24months between babies, this means 0.5% risk of UR would become 1.5%(ish) risk of UR. If that is a risk you're willing to take then by all means tell the cons what you have found and how you feel about it. It does say that risk of a CS due to unsuccessful VBAC increases from 25% to 32% also, so that's another stat to take into consideration.
Would you prefer to try VBAC and have an EM CS if need be rather than an EL CS or would you prefer to have a planned EL CS? Those are the questions you need to ask yourself.
Then after discussion with your consultant decide if you feel they are supporting you enough in your decision.
Good Luck.