I want a baby but dont want to go thru what i went thru last time.

[DrivingMissHannah]

i have a DS 10 months old. for the last 6 weeks i ve been, well, there's no other way to put this, IM CRAVING ANOTHER BABY.
nobody i know is pregnant or has given birth. so im not sure why i feel like this. We have decided that we want to start TTC next December, so there is about 2 years and 4 months between them. september coming we're getting married. so we have everything worked out (not that anything goes to plan)
but anyways this is not the problem. we both really really want to have another baby, but im petrified of going thru Labour again when i had DS it was 44mins start to finish, very pain ful and the midwifes wouldnt listen to when saying that i wanted to push etc. and the long and the short of it one midwife went to move me as i was having a full on contraction and his head was coming out (sorry if TMI) so i accidently ish turned around and punched her in the face i am really ashamed about it but she wouldnt listen to me.

i really dont want to go thru that again, has anyone got any suggestions as to wat i can do i know its gonna be painful either way but i dont want it to be frightening like on DS

I thin kyou should research visualisation techniques.
When I was pg with my second I bought a book "The Gentle birth method" which is a programme which can be followed and includes diets and supplements, creative helaing techniques, deep muscle relaxation, visualisation and pelvic drainage massage".
I'm not saying for one minute that I followed this in the end , but it gave me food for thought.
My SIL actually saw a therapist who taught her visualisation tecniques through hypnotherapy and SIL had a fantastic 2nd and 3rd births afterwards, after having a terrible time first time around.
BTW in the end I had an unplanned home birth with no midwives present and am amazed at how your body really just takes over.

sorry for the long post , hth
xx

thanx flier, im just sooooo scared and i feel really stupid about it!! especially when they say you r quicker on your second time around!! i dont think id cope with the pain this time around, i think its better on your first as you dont know whats to come!!1

cough cough

Have you thought about hiring a Doula?

have a home birth

lucky you with the 44mins, I was 33hrs with dd1 and 29 then EMCS with dd2 and am pg with dc3. Neither of my experiences were good ones but its just something you have to do.

lucky you with the 44mins, I was 33hrs with dd1 and 29 then EMCS with dd2 and am pg with dc3. Neither of my experiences were good ones but its just something you have to do.

id love to have a home birth but i had that STREP B on elwyn which i dunno if its one of those things or if its a permenant thing?? but i had to stay in hospital for 72 hours etc. im just so scared of hurting some one!! my DP said i didnt shout at him at all, ansd i apologised to my mum for making her lose a days pay at work!! i think i mite have been temporarily doolally!!!

I had similar with DD1 MWs refusing to believe I was in labour etc until I was pushing, second time around they will know you are likely to be fast too (it's call precipitate (spp) labour. I had a homebirth with number 2 and as the MWs knew me and knew I would be fast they both came at once. A much better experience.

I also had a friend who had her second in about 20 minutes so she chose to be induced with her third so she could get to hospital in time and feel more in control as she was terrified of giving birth at home or in the car.

TDWP politely clears her throat.

i know its one of those things we have to go thru, but i just wondered if there is anything to make it any better??

step b isn't permenant, it comes and goes, you can get tested for it during pregnancy if you ask your midwife.

i would think about home birth or midwife led birth centre maybe, are you even going to get to the hospital in 44 mins!

yes there is

prepare yourself - go to antenatal yoga, read the Gentle Birth Method and/or any of Ina May Gaskin's books.

44min of pain and punching a midwife is actually not that bad

devilwears primark would u like to comment

phew... i thought i d have to be in hosp no question then!! id like to maybe have a water birth to ease it a bit?? im only about 15mins away from the hosp. so im alrite there!!

I think I've said it all tbh.

I am exhausted.