Hi all
Sorry for the long post!
I gave birth a few weeks ago to my 2nd child (39 weeks) and I am still feeling sad and frustrated with my experience. I just want to know if anyone has experienced what I have and if what happened to me was valid.
My waters broke Saturday evening. I had no contractions or anything prior. The only sign I had that labour is imminent is losing a bit of my mucus plug. I was booked on the home birth team and so called the triage and told them what was happening. They sent 2 midwives over to my house to make sure it was my waters (at this point I wasn't sure) but they couldn't confirm so they advised me to go to the hospital and get it checked. I decided to go next morning.
When I got to the hospital, before they checked my waters they did a fetal ctg to monitor if baby is OK. Now thinking back I don't understand why they needed to do this and for some reason I failed to ask this question. They eventually did confirm it was my waters. At this point I had been hooked to the monitor for a while because the midwife and doctor were both saying that the ctg was failing to meet the criteria but at this point there was no alarm bells. At this point my hope for homebirth was disappearing. The midwife did a sweep to help things going.
As it was coming to 24 hours since my waters broke, I was told I'd have to be induced. The ctg of the baby was still suggesting the criteria wasn't being met. At this point I am still not experiencing contractions, just random braxton hicks.
They finally got a room ready for me and moved me to the labour ward. They put me back on the ctg monitor and now it was saying that every time I was having small braxton hicks, the baby's heart rate was increasing to like 176bpm. So the doctor said this baby is not going to cope with full on labour and my only option now is a section. I really didn't want this so I asked can we wait to see if things change. They gave me 30 mins and nothing was changing. The doctor said baby is in distress and we need to get baby out now.
I was so defeated at this point. I was 2cm dilated and being rushed to theatre. Things were happening so fast. My daughter was born and the recovery was brutal. I'm still not over the birth and I just can't help wonder did things get escalated too quickly. We got to the hospital at 11am and my baby was born 6pm.
I can't help but think should I have waited, was it the continuous monitoring that set me up to fail and led to a cascade of interventions. Was it the fact I was on my back for hours that distressed the baby a bit. If my waters never broke would the baby be in distress silently?
I'm going to book a birth debrief soon but I was hoping if someone here could help me make sense of this. I just feel like going from trying to have a homebirth to the other end of the spectrum with a c section is too much for me to comprehend. I'm sad most days and I just want to stop feeling like this. If I ever want another child naturally, I've now got to consider all the risks that come with vbac. If my c section was unnecessary, it makes me so upset that ive been left to deal with going down the consultant led pathway, continuous monitoring again which I cant help think is what led to the c section. I believe I'll be set up to fail again. I genuinely never want to go through a section again, it was horrible for me and I can't help feel like I was rushed into it.