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Childbirth

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My c-section date has been moved - really gutted!

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WizzardMum22 · 04/05/2023 17:47

Hi everyone,

I do know in the grand scheme of things this isn’t so bad I just can’t help but be a bit gutted :(

My elective c-section was first booked in for the 8/05 but when it was realised it was a bank holiday it was changed to the 9th. Which is the date I’ve known about since about 24 weeks and been planning for in my head & arranged childcare for my first DS and planned work around- myself and my husband run a small business so having a definite date has helped with that side of things!

this afternoon I’ve had a call from the labour team at my local hospital and they’ve pushed me back 2 days to Thursday as they’ve got too many electives that are booked in over the bank holiday and they’ve had to prioritise certain cases. Which of course I do understand. My c-section isn’t because of health reasons, it’s because I suffered from birth trauma that ended with 1.5 hours in surgery (not a section) a lot of blood loss, blood transfusions & a long hospital stay for myself as I had complications with my first and I wanted a controlled managed environment this time round!

I know it’s only 2 days which really isn’t a big deal in reality, I’m just super sad as I was really looking forward to Tuesday and I had everything planned for it. I am the type of person who does struggle when plans change as I have anxiety & I like to know ahead and make plans for everything.

I guess I’m just venting or after words of encouragement. I’ve had a good cry about it!

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Whatelsecouldibecalled · 04/05/2023 17:55

Ah I get your frustration! I had ELCS after similar birth trauma. 4th degree tear torn uterus post partum haemorrhage etc.

Poor from hospital to over book. Mine was booked at 32 weeks and literally looked at the calendar and picked at date. Baby was being delivered at 36 weeks. I can understand your disappointment. Two more days. Hopefully you can sort childcare etc again.

Hope it's a positive experience for you. Mine was excellent and very healing process. The recovery was far easier than my first birth!

VladimirVsVolodymyr · 04/05/2023 17:56

Hugs 🤗 it's ok to vent! It will be fine and you know it, but you've been waiting all these months and with childcare sorted for a certain date. Will you need to reorganise childcare? Hang in there, your baby will be in your arms very soon. Congratulations.

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WizzardMum22 · 04/05/2023 17:58

@Whatelsecouldibecalled thank you for your reply! I was set very early on to have an ELCS this time round. I’ll be 39+4 by the time it comes round next week.

I think it’s poor too. I was the one who originally pointed out the 8/5 was bank holiday and was assured it would be moved be fine for the 9/5.

I was even there this week for another scan & check up and no one said anything so I’m just a bit disappointed with that to be fair as well!

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Whatelsecouldibecalled · 04/05/2023 17:59

You could ask if any cancellations at next appointment. Always worth a try.

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WizzardMum22 · 04/05/2023 18:02

@VladimirVsVolodymyr

we run our small business with my parents so they are able to have our DS still. I think today I got upset as it meant less time for DH to have with them. We work in hospitality and DH has planned to reopen for the last bank holiday in May. I know it’s only 2 days but I think when you’re hormonal and so close to the date it makes everything feel worse!!

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Mitchyp · 04/05/2023 18:03

I get your frustration bless you my induction was pushed back twice when I'd actually got to the hospital both times I was being induced because my daughter had stopped growing I eventually went in on my third day and had her the next day have they said about monitoring each day while you wait maybe book a spa day on the day you should of gone in and enjoy yourself The best of luck

tootrueblue · 04/05/2023 18:29

I think I would try and frame it as, given your previous birth trauma, I'd rather there were less competing demands on my surgical team with prioritised cases, so if a couple of days later means they aren't as flat out, I'm probably going to be better taken care of

mummyh2016 · 04/05/2023 18:43

The trouble is that because of the bank holidays any last minute electives that aren't urgent enough to become an EMCS but still a high priority to get baby out need to be scheduled for either tomorrow or Tuesday. To make it worse we've only just had a bank holiday so they've had to try and squeeze 10 surgery days into 8 so they've lost 20% capacity. You'll be near the bottom of the list as there isn't a medical need to get baby out (I'm not talking down your previous birth by the way, I just mean there's no difference to your babies health if your CS is pushed back). Completely get your frustration though, I would be upset as well but it is just one of those things.

Meredusoleil · 04/05/2023 18:51

I feel your pain. My ELCS with dd1 (not really my choice) was pushed back 8 days and that was AFTER I had already been prepped for surgery!

Also had dd2 by ELCS (my choice this time) and despite heavy snowfall overnight, it still went ahead on the date I had requested and planned for. Different hospital though!

rosegoldivy · 04/05/2023 18:54

Ahhhh I feel ya

I had ELCS booked with my twins, was in hospital all gowned up and ready to go..... waited 6 hours to be sent home as too many emergencies came in.

Literally just burst into tears as I was so done being pregnant and was in so much pain.

They said to come back the next day and wait for an available time slot but couldn't guarantee it. Said I might have to go in several days in morning and hope for the best.

Cried all night.

Luckily we were first to theatre the next morning

Wtafis · 04/05/2023 18:57

Oh love, I get it.
I had a cs at 39*4 at Xmas due to all the bank holidays pushing it later

AgingIsAPrivilege · 04/05/2023 19:10

Ah I get it too, my planned section was a medical necessity and I was gutted not to be able to go for vaginal delivery. So when I was kind of used to that idea & working to the given date it was awful being told it needed to move back a day. All I can say is, we understand, it's genuine stress you feel but also it's mainly hormones causing it. I promise you won't dwell on it for long. Hope you have a lovely calm delivery when the date arrives.

Greybeardy · 04/05/2023 19:23

If they've had to reschedule you it probably means that there are other women having a pretty rubbish week because their pregnancies have just become more complicated and require a time critical delivery. There is finite operating capacity and they have to organise things safely. The private sector is really the place to be for a guaranteed date. Hope it goes well on the day.

clouise30 · 06/05/2023 19:45

I'd be so disappointed too as I really don't like changes of plans. Just think though it's better than going in on the day you've had planned, it being too busy due to emergencies etc and them then sending you home which I know happens quite frequently on my local labour ward! Not long to go! Hope all goes well! X

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