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Male midwifes, any experiences???

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pedilia · 17/02/2008 17:25

I had a male midwife who delivered my daughter a year ago, he was great (as well as being spanish and very good looking)

Anyone else had a male midwife or would anyone object to one?

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SlightlyMadSecretSoundWinner · 17/02/2008 17:28

I had a male MW look after me whilst on an antenatal in patient ward for a few days.

He was great, seemed to be more conciensious of what he was doing - particularly when it came to my body and my bump.

Didn't have to have any internals though whcih I think may have made me feel a bit wierd. But then having said that I had half a dozen Drs stick their fist up my fanjo at some point at DTDs delivery so whats the difference?

Teaandcake · 18/02/2008 15:44

I was dealt with by a male midwife when I had a miscarriage. He was bloody awful. Stupid bumbling idiot with no people skills.

I booked into a different hospital when I was pregnant with DS in case I encountered him again.

Sorry to be so negative but this was my experience.

scorpio1 · 18/02/2008 15:45

had a male MW at first baby when i was 17.

no problems

MumtoBen · 20/02/2008 21:06

I had a male midwife for part of my labour. He refused to believe I was in labour, refused to check my cervix (after many requests) and refused to give me any pain relief (I was screaming in agony). When I started pushing he finally agreed to check my cervix and said "oh look you're fully dilated". The female midwife I had before him was no better though. Don't think his uselessness was particularly because he was a man. More to do with his arrogance and inexperience (he looked about 22).

Tiggerish · 20/02/2008 21:11

I had a male mw when ds arrived nearly 6 years ago. I am sure it was his first solo delivery - he was great but if he wasn't totally sure of something he would get a 2nd opinion. It was really reassuring

Anyway I had an epidural and spent a very pleasant afternoon chatting to him totally oblivious to the pain

worley · 20/02/2008 21:11

hi scorpio1, just looked at your profile - when do you get time to sleep!!!!

hatrick · 20/02/2008 21:11

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Psychomum5 · 20/02/2008 21:18

I had a male midwife when I was in prem labour with DS2.....and he was FAB.

DH felt it was great too, not least because while I was out of it on all the meds they had to give me, and DH was asking what was going on, he felt more listened too and he was answer in 'man speak' making him feel lots more involved. he had a good frame of reference too, as DS2 was also DC5.

it also helped when things started going really crap (my blood pressure plummeted and it turned into a scene from ER according to DH), DH felt like the midwife also took notice of him and made sure he wasn;t ignored, whiich was in completed contrast to when it had happened with DS1 (I had a car accident at 28wk then and was in hell for that prem labout too), as DH was at that point kicked out of the room.

nope.....IMO make midwives are wonderful, for us mums and especially for the scared dads!!!

besides anything tho.....many gynae's and obstiatricians(sp?) are man anyway so being seen by a man isn't going to be that unusual in certain cases.

tori32 · 20/02/2008 21:42

I haven't had a male MW with dd1. Am pg again and would not object at all to being cared for by one. A trained medical professional is just that IMO

lubyluby · 20/02/2008 21:47

wonder what ti is with spanish male midwives. in the trust i work for there used to eb 3 male midwivesand one of those was spanish. he was lovely a really sweet and nice man, the othe was an older middle aged man who ahd come to midwifery form nursing and the other is a 'normal' mid twenties male, whcih seemed a bit weird as he's a good looking man and many of his clients used to fancy him and many fo the team he worked with too LOL!

as some of the pp's have said it wouldn't particularly bother me fi my midwife was male as most dr's and obs and gynaes seem to eb male and as long as they are repsectful and considerate (as i would expect a female to be too) then i don;t have a problem.

mummytobea · 21/02/2008 15:34

I had the most amazing male midwife when my little girl was born last year. He was so gentle and kind and as others have said he made my husband feel really at ease! I know some people have said that men can't really understand what you are going through etc, but I know a few female midwives who do not have children so is it really any different?

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