Wedding 6 months post baby?

[Mumm1993]

Hi,
me and my fiancé have booked and planned most of our wedding. It’s a big (120person) beautiful barn wedding and I’ve bought a stunning fitted dress that’s one I’ve imagined myself in since forever.
Just found out we’re pregnant and the baby is due 5-6 months before the wedding.
In all honesty I just feel gutted. Im worried about having to breastfeed during the wedding and the more I look the more unrealistic it seems that I’ll ever fit into my dress or even look good in it if I went a size or two up.

I don’t think we can postpone without incurring some costly fees, but what I’m really hoping for is maybe a bit of reassurance that it might actually be possible to be recovered and back in good shape to look nice in a tight wedding dress and enjoy my wedding with a 6 month old baby?

Honest answers please 🥲

It depends how disciplined you can be during pregnancy. I've gained 6lb, which is pretty much all baby/fluid. I'll be back in my size 12 jeans within a few weeks. I eat plenty but lots of lean protein, salad, whole grains and limit treats. Pregnancy doesn't have to mean getting to be the size of a house!

I got married while pregnant and it was exhausting but 6m post would be absolutely fine, as long as grandparents/close friend is happy to be on 'baby duty' while you have a lovely getting ready morning & some time on the dance floor - best of luck OP!

I got married 4 months after my wedding. I found a good tailor to alter my dress but didn't end up needing them - however I'm quite slim naturally and was back in my normal clothes within a few days.

Best advice - Hire a babysitter for your wedding! It'll be the best money you ever spend so you aren't chasing around various grandparents reminding people they need changed/fed/taken to bed.

Hey! So I was 8 months PP when we got married. I would GO for it. I was still breastfeeding but got some gorge pics of me feeding in my dress. 5/6 mo is still young enough to not worry about snacks etc. the dress I worried about but I got it tailored so it was ready 2 weeks before so it fit who I was then, not who I was before. I was so worried about it all but honestly it was great. Baby young enough to be up at the party with ear defenders, or otherwise do what we did and have them in the hotel room (if that's what you're doing) and have close family sit with them an hour each until the end. X

At that point after both of mine I was the thinnest I was, due to breastfeeding! It’s when I stopped that the weight piled back on

As long as I could BF in the dress, I would have been fine. And as long as it isn’t very high necked, you can probably get a boob out!

I agree with PP that how your body changes during pregnancy is just as (more?) important than how you ‘bounce back’ afterwards. Gaining lots of weight isn’t inevitable at all.

Double wedding and baby congratulations!

Realistically, bodies do change with pregnancy in unpredictable ways. Even at the same weight, your dress might look fantastic or you might find yourself in need of something different. I would try to leave some money set aside for an emergency dress substitution so you have the option of swapping for something else if necessary. The important thing is that you feel beautiful and confident on the big day. You may find your current dress is still your dream dress, you may find yourself desperate for something different.

having a 6 month old baby at your wedding isn’t ideal, but it’s not unmanageable.

of all the curve balls that life is going to throw you, this one is pretty minor. Your wedding will be a little different than you envisioned, but you and your husband and still getting married and starting your family.

Agree realistically your body will change in subtle ways you may not necessarily notice until you try on something from "before" - like a tight wedding dress. I breastfed twins and was back to pre pregnancy weight within less than a month but my shape will never be what it was

If you are set on the wedding date then I would just change the dress

You’ll be absolutely fine 🙂 my second baby is currently 11 weeks and I’d happy have a wedding right now! Family and friends will help with baby on the day and it’ll be great. I went to my brothers wedding when my first was 8 months and the bride and groom’s baby 6 months and it was all good.

Your body might change but it’ll still be a wonderful body that’s brought a baby into the world! You might decide you’d prefer a different style when it comes to it though, because of breastfeeding or how you feel, so maybe keep your options open for getting a new dress (I bought mine from Wed2Be and walked out with it the same day)
6 month olds are very portable too, make sure you’ve got a good carrier people can wear them in (I’m an Integra baby fan)

I hope you have a great wedding x

Thank you everyone 🙏🏼
honestly at the moment my hormones are all over the place and I just can’t stop crying!
I think maybe in a month or so I’ll feel a lot better about it!

I was back in my size 10 skinny jeans within days of giving birth both times...With the breastfeeding boobs I looked great!! 😂

By 6 months op you'll be fine, breastfeeding will have settled and you'll be feeling more like you again!

Congratulations on your baby and wedding ❤️

I was back to my pre pregnancy weight within three months this time, last time it took approx 12 months, I gained more weight in pregnancy the first time though and was less active. Whilst I am back to my pre pregnancy weight I can't fit in the same size clothes due to my back size. I'm breastfeeding and have boobs, plus rib cage has expanded slightly, tried to do up a dress and it just wouldn't even come close on the back, so that's one thing to bear in mind. Waist is fine, it's just boobs and back. I'm currently 7 months post partum

Watch the shoes - my feet definitely got wider during pregnancy, and have stayed that way! Maybe get the shoes nearer the wedding

I lost the weight easily the first time around but my rib cage expanded so my back widened just a tad. It meant my two dresses that had boning in them were incredibly uncomfortable. Just something to bear in mind.

My babies were easy and would have been fine nearby with a professional babysitter but not all are and really you just don’t know….

I’m due in April and our wedding is booked for August, I didn’t have a dress before I got pregnant and now I’m putting off buying one for this reason. I feel better about it, but in the early days I would get very upset thinking about how I’d manage everything. Now I’m excited to have my baby at my wedding, he’ll be the best guest and I can’t wait to pick his little outfit!
all the best with it!

You should be fine if you’re disciplined during pregnancy. Do not eat for two.

I had geststional diabetes so couldn’t eat any sugar and very limited carbs and 2 weeks post birth I weigh less than i started and I’m back in my jeans.

But my hips are wider than they were and boobs are bigger - so things like that will need to be taken into account at the dress fitting

Update - baby is now 8 weeks old and luckily I was able to stay fit and active during my pregnancy so I don’t feel like I put on too much weight.
however my breastfeeding boobs are GINORMOUS and my hips are definitely much wider as I don’t fit into any of my jeans or pre pregnancy dresses despite having a flat tummy again :( will just have to hope the seamstress can work her magic!

You'll be fine. I breastfed and it was the only thing I can say helped me get back in 'shape'. By 6m pp, I was smaller than before I'd got pregnant. Out of all my friends, those who have breastfed have lost the weight quicker/easier than those who have bottle fed. I was back in my pre pregnancy clothes by 4 months pp.

As for breastfeeding, I found that so much more convenient than having to prepare bottles, wash them up, sterilise, wait for the water to be the right temperature etc etc. Much quicker with nothing you have to keep on you/ carry.

Congratulations by the way!

I think its doable, I gained 3.5 stone during pregnancy and was in the gym until 3 days before giving birth and im now 3 months pp and almost back at pre preg weight without trying. If I had actually dietted id be a lot lighter. I am exclusively pumping aswell which obviously helps. You can totally breastfeed at your wedding aswell

Energy wise will totally depend on your baby

I was back in my pre baby clothes one week post partum with my first and three with my second. It's doable - just keep active during your pregnancy. I swam and practised yoga most days during my first then horrendous all day morning sickness during my second stopped major weight gain.

Just seen your update - well done @Mumm1993 and congratulations on your baby. Your boobs will calm down a tad by six months; can you have your dress tailored a little around your hips?